I wish I had somebody in my life who i can just genuinely say everything on my mind too and not be judged or looked at crazy...kinda like what I try to do for other ppl, but ik my mind is wild and at this point I dont think I will ever get that
I feel like God speaks to me through music but like He meets me where I am because He knows me and what I listen too. Its like whenever I'm in my head about something I randomly find a new song that either explains exactly how I feel or helps get the emotion out. God is good man.
Today I GENUINELY understood that a lot of men leave women because they don’t feel safe, secure, or supported. As a woman I can admit that most of us are missing the mark. And social media doesn’t help.
Especially when days like Valentine’s Day happens. Women are so focused on what he should be doing for you. Is he buying 5 dozens of roses? Is he spending $500 on dinner? Meanwhile you’re just putting on sexy lingerie and fucking him. Some women think that’s enough and most men don’t even get a gift. Other women be so focused on their own desires that they really don’t know what their man wants/desires so they end up being a terrible gift giver.
And most good men don’t even care for a tangible gift. Don’t get me wrong they want to be gifted but it’s not as important as creating a safe environment for him. Most men can’t be vulnerable, like EVER. It almost always back fires on them. And women get on here complaining about how all these men ain’t shit and they don’t care… but when was the last time you GENUINELY checked on his mental? Can he truly be himself with you without being ridiculed or you starting an argument ? Are you actually supporting his dreams/goals and not undermining them. Can you answer the question of what’s the most important thing to your man and how you’re cultivating space for it in your relationship? These things are very critical in really winning a man over.
A lot of women are so caught up in the “ I have multiple degrees, I drive a nice car, I’m making good money, I’m pretty asf, I’m a real catch”
But are you a REAL catch if men don’t feel safe around you?
And that’s why a lot of women be confused when a man passes up the “bad bitch” for the “bum bitch.” She’s not really a bum, she’s providing an environment that you’re not…you can’t see it. And probably won’t ever see it because as women, there’s always a safe space for us…
People really expect their partners to be perfect at all times… but there isn’t a such thing as perfect. But people believe it exists and that’s why a lot of people are single and complaining. No one will be 100%, especially all the time
That #CaptainAmericaBraveNewWorld movie was amazing. All the people saying the script is bad dont understand black culture and it shows because this movie definitely had some black people writing the script