If your only motivation for being "good" is the fear of hell, it suggests that your actions are driven by self-preservation than genuine empathy. Without the fear of punishment, would you still choose kindness? Genuine goodness stems from empathy, not fear.
i think we’d all be happier if every guy understood that being this vulnerable and cute and sensitive is waaaaaay more attractive than being “oooooh i’m a MAN macho testosterone” LIKE LOOK AT HIM HE’S ADORABLE
So, this happens as a result of the tenderness *he* consistently shows her. She is, in true feminine nature, reflecting and responding to the tone he has set for the relationship.
Women want to be loved and cherished. Deep down, a woman in love is the young woman sitting on the metaphorical front step waiting in anticipation for the man she loves to return. This is the posture of her heart. She waits for him and responds with enthusiasm *because* he has demonstrated care for her outside of this moment and because he consistently reciprocates love and enthusiasm when they’re reunited.
Harshness feels like rejection to a woman. If he spends a week acting grumpy or annoyed with her when she greets him, she will take that as a sign that he doesn’t want her love. She will begin to withdraw, confused, and things will start to unravel.
Rightly ordered feminity is driven by the impulse to love and nurture. If she is prevented from properly existing in the feminine, she will wither.