Abraham

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[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

They will underestimate you. They will dismiss you. They'll withhold respect, and try to cut you out. You won't get upset. You will conceal your irritation, and demonstrate competence until you are unmistakeable. Like dominoes, they fall in stubborn recognition. You will conquer.

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

One of man's deepest desires is not to be a burden on anyone and to earn his way. Burdening others brings him shame. He aspires to self-sufficiency so he can be one that gives rather than takes. He does not pursue independence out of vanity, he covets self-reliance out of honour.

[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

If you are willing, you risk it all. Not for what you can get but for who you can become.

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

Just because you can see how you are able to improve, doesn’t mean you aren’t pretty great already. It means you see how you could be even greater, but just haven’t managed to get there yet. The absence of perfection is not evidence of mediocrity. Do not sell yourself short.

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

If the presence of a woman habitually makes a man crueller, he must protect his soul and leave.

Western society is gynocentric, so always looks to shift blame away from the woman, whilst holding the man maximally accountable without really making a fair and honest attempt to scrutinise the negative pressures she is subjecting him to.

I think of this through the filter of a father observing his son.

If I know my son's personality, and he becomes more destructive, more generally aggressive, lower impulse control, less patient, less reasonable, less optimistic and inspired, less thoughtful, less kind, less loving, and I see him declining in multiple key cognitive, moral, and behavioural areas - I know she is the issue. I know she is bad for him in that she is stressing him beyond what he is built to handle, and not because he is weak, but because his strength, dedication and unwillingness to give up are turned against him, in that they allow him to hang on in there, and receive repeat doses of psychological abuse where other men would have already crumbled, exited, or just surrendered out of tiredness.

Most likely he is responding to repeated and deep disrespect: symbolic betrayals, insufferable moral hypocrisy, narrative incoherence and flip-flopping, the repeat violation of agreed upon rules and standards, gaslighting, an enduring refusal to cooperate, persistent unreasonable demands, and uncharitable criticism.

It is this constant siege on his nervous system that is stressful to him, and makes him *snap* until he starts becoming a habitually cruel man - a man he was not before he was with her, but is slowly becoming in battling for dominance with her, because she is always fighting *with him*, rather than *for him*.

Essentially in fighting a monster, he is becoming one. He is losing his soul to a woman who wishes to control him and drain him more than she wishes to pour into and love him, and so in their tussle for dominance, he becomes ugly.

This is why for you as a man, it is actually very simple.

If a woman brings out the beauty in you, that is a good woman. Just being with her will make you want to be a better man. You should actually fight for this woman. She elicits your highest self, because this is true and pure love. If you have never experienced this, I hope you do, because this is how it is meant to be. It is not meant to be a toxic forever power struggle.

But if you continuously find yourself being your lowest self, a self lower than you would be if you were simply alone doing the things you like to do - if she constantly refuses cooperation, is prone to provocation, devaluation, humiliation etc - you owe her nothing, least of all, the erosion of your soul to master her.

You should not become a worse human being just to preserve your authority in a relationship, for it is a false prize, and an unjust reward - she is truly not worth more than the sanctity of your own soul.

So ask yourself: does this woman inspire the light in me, or the darkness in me? And if both, is your darkness protective of her in service to her, or wielded against her because she wields hers against you? Does she act like she is your enemy, or like she would crush all of your enemies? If it is the former, you must leave, and if it is the latter, then you are not even asking yourself this question, because you already know: she is great.

[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

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[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

The result is that many modern conversations are no longer happening purely at the level of meaning. They are happening at the level of social implication. And sometimes, what a word suggests socially becomes more important than what it actually means.

[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

PART 2 — CONNOTATIONS: THE HIDDEN MEANING BEHIND WORDS
One of the most powerful things about words is that they are rarely understood only by definition. They are understood by feeling, association, memory, culture, and social context.

[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

This becomes even more powerful online because the internet compresses communication into short, emotionally loaded signals. Nuance gets stripped away. Connotation fills the gap.

[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

It’s about examining what happens when language becomes so compressed that entire human beings begin to fit into single words.

Labels, Connotations & Stigma.

[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

PART 1 — THE AGE OF LABELS
The internet has quietly changed the way we describe human beings. People are no longer seen as individuals displaying behaviours.

[Abraham @AybeeRuby]

Observation slowly becomes identity. This series is not about rejecting accountability or dismissing harmful behaviour.