My Grandad is convinced a seagull called Sally has been stalking him since the 70s because he destroyed her nest. Although it sounds mad I secretly believe him, especially after I took him for lunch & a seagull swooped at his head & he shouted back "when will this end Sally?"
Some of y’all think boundaries are rejection. They’re not.
They’re how people protect their peace, their time, and their mental health. The people who truly care about you will respect your boundaries, not punish you for having them.
Stop feeling guilty for saying “no” to what keeps costing you your peace.❤️
There’s something incredibly attractive about listening to someone talk about something they genuinely love. They could be going on and on about ducks, obscure hobbies, or a topic I know absolutely nothing about, and I’d still be completely invested. The excitement in their voice, the way their eyes light up, the pure passion they have for it, it instantly makes them so much more endearing.
@Urfv_shammy honestly, that balance is what a lot of people are looking for , strength without harshness, love without ego, and consistency with softness.
bro to bro: if you like skinnier girls, get yourself a skinny girl. if you like thicker girls, get yourself a thick girl. if you like fitness girls, get yourself a fit girl. you are entitled to your own preferences.
but what you are not going to do bro, is date a girl who is not your type and make her feel inferior to other girls.
@kush_147 The saddest part is good people rarely stop loving all at once… they just slowly get tired of bleeding for people who only noticed their value after the warmth disappeared
Good people have high levels of empathy, but once that empathy is exhausted, they switch to a state of objective observation. They see you for exactly who you are, without the filter of their love. This is why their anger feels so cold, it is the absence of the warmth you took for granted
I don't care for nonchalance. Please point me to the lovers, the yearners, the poets, the men who send long paragraphs and the women who will send a long paragraph back, the triple texters, the gifters. Point me to the people who love love and are not afraid to show it.
This is how you lose yourself:
You start saying “it’s okay” when it’s not.
You start laughing off hurtful comments.
You start shrinking yourself so you won’t be “too much.”
All because somewhere along the way, you learned that being loved meant being less.
You’re allowed to unlearn that.
Some men will make you feel deeply loved when it’s convenient for them, but the moment real effort, consistency, and emotional responsibility are needed, they slowly become distant. The saddest part is watching someone who once made you feel safe turn into the reason you question your worth and overthink everything. Sometimes the pain isn’t losing them, it’s realizing you were fighting for a connection they had already stopped valuing..
Abandonment is not just someone leaving you, it is also someone not meeting your needs, someone not respecting your boundaries, someone not keeping their word, someone not reciprocating the love you give, and someone not valuing your presence.
Abandonment is not just about those who fail to show up for you physically, but also about those who fail to show up mentally and emotionally.