REMINDER: You have NO obligation to be nice to people who have been mean to you, even if you’re a nice person by nature. Nasty people don’t deserve your kindness.
Normalize creating distance when you know someone's been speaking negatively about you. You don't have to keep showing up with a smile just to "keep the peace" while someone is comfortable disrespecting you behind closed doors. If someone chose to speak on you, let them stand on it. You're not obligated to be extra cordial to people who haven't been genuine with you.
YOU START LOOKING AT PEOPLE
DIFFERENT WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT HOW THEY REALLY BEEN TREATING YOU. especially when you realize how much you overlooked just to keep peace, avoid arguments, or keep somebody in your life.