I told my therapist,
“I keep falling for people who never really choose me back.”
She didn't give me comfort.
Hearing her, my whole body went still.
Here's what she just replied:
I have a friend who doesn’t tell anyone anything. You won’t know she’s about to move until she has already moved. You won’t know she’s getting a car until she already has one. Even the problems between her and her boyfriend are none of our business.
I used to think she wasn’t being a good friend because she didn’t share her personal life. But now I understand why she doesn’t. It’s nothing personal, she just keeps her business private. And as I get older, I definitely see why.
I spent years overgiving in friendships & relationships. I was always the one checking in, showing love, making sure everybody was good & I forgot about me. Now I just want to be alone and focus on myself. I’m learning to pour into me the way I used to pour into everybody else. 🎀
A therapist on IG said “You don’t chase them bc you love them. You chase them bc deep down, you’re still trying to prove to yourself that you’re worth staying for.”It’s not just about them. It’s about the part of you that still believes love has to be earned. Here’s why;
Only here for a mini rant.
Don't be surprised when you realise that there are many people in your life who are only there for the broken version of you.
I've seen it myself, I've supported people without question for years, but the moment they see you doing well, they're gone
Last few years have been such a revelation.
Moral of the story, stop being someone's comfort zone at the expense of your own growth/dreams.
The right people will stay on the ride with you 💛