@john322226 Trusting your partner to do the right thing whether you are there or not is exactly why you marry who you know and who has same values with you
There's an old adage that says: "A man who doesn't have friends will sleep with his mother."
Young men, if you're not yet married, let his tears be your masterclass.
Here is the harsh truth you need to internalize:
โ1. You Need a Circle of Solid Friends. Your good friends would have slapped you before you finish talking.
2. Stop Funding a Long Distance Illusion. Especially where you are at disadvantage financially. Already distance changes people, this one then funded it. Sigh!
โ3. Never "Let it Slide" When Your Boundaries Are Crossed. That flat mate matter... you must never keep the peace especially as a man. Once the respect of a woman is gone, the relationship is over.
โ4. Gratitude Does Not Equal Desire. This is for those buying gifts and expecting love or desire. She is just an opportunist milking a cash cow. Stop the funding and watch the illusion shatter.
Build your circle of brothers. Listen to their warnings. Protect your resources, guard your boundaries, and never ever, ever... ever... ignore the red flags that are staring you right in the face.
This man committed all the sins.
This man is your scapegoat.
This man is your lesson for the new generation.
You texted me and told me Iโm very handsome and naughty and I billed you for my gym premium subscription and you ghosted, itโs okay if youโre struggling as a woman but donโt go around admiring men that are not on your level.
I was crying like a child here, Ahh TOBI outdid him self here!!! Great actor!!! I can't remember when I cried for a movie in my life๐ but didn't like the fact that I didnt watch funke and her evil twins suffer at the end, una for give us that satisfaction after all the tears.
Date cancelled. I asked her to pay for my haircut and outfit, and to send a ride to my place to take me to the location, but she declined. Biggest red flag I have ever seen. I dodged a bullet. ๐ฉ
I CANNOT MAKE THIS SHIT UP
YP & JERIQ NEVER CHOP FOR AT LEAST 18 HOURS AND DEM DON DEY SMOKE BACKY.
WE LAND VANCOUVER, OGBE SAY HIM WAN FAINT
YP SAY HIM BELLE WAN TEAR.
DEM CONCLUDE SAY WE DEY GO CHOP.
AS WE ENTER CAR BOTH OF THEM SAY โMAKE WE GO BUY IGBO ABEGโ
TOH
I CANNOT MAKE THIS SHIT UP
YP & JERIQ NEVER CHOP FOR AT LEAST 18 HOURS AND DEM DON DEY SMOKE BACKY.
WE LAND VANCOUVER, OGBE SAY HIM WAN FAINT
YP SAY HIM BELLE WAN TEAR.
DEM CONCLUDE SAY WE DEY GO CHOP.
AS WE ENTER CAR BOTH OF THEM SAY โMAKE WE GO BUY IGBO ABEGโ
TOH
Here is the hack:
Letโs say you want to buy 10k worth of beef, donโt go there and tell the aboki that he should cut 10k beef for you. This is what you should do:
- Select a very big chunk of the meat on the table.
- Ask him how much. (In your mind you know that meat may be worth letโs say 20k).
- He will tell you 25k
- Start pricing from 6k. Yes, I said 6k.
- He will squeeze face but stand on that your 6k.
- He will tell you the last price is 20k.
- Tell him you can only add 1500, that is 7,500. Squeeze your face too. This is negotiation not romance.
- He will tell you 18k last.
- Tell him you will only pay 8,500. And that if you exceed that, you cannot buy the other stuff you came to the market for.
- He will say no, that it is 17k last.
- Tell him you are going to buy fish, except he will sell for 10k.
Trust me, he will.
Market men and women naturally want to cheat you first before anything else. They will never sell at a loss. If you know how to bargain well like me, youโll always get a good deal. You are welcome.๐
The first day she ever slept over at my place, I left for work and she stayed behind. When I came home, she was in the kitchen cooking. I walked into my room and everything was spotless. She had cleaned the house, done my laundry, and then served me a plate of food.
I remember thinking to myself, women like this still exist?
Sheโs beautiful, successful, and well put together, so it surprised me even more that she still carried that traditional femininity and warmth.
Six months later, I proposed to her.
Weโve been married for five years now, and nothing has changed. She still cooks, keeps the home peaceful, and never brings unnecessary stress into my life. She lets me relax, play my video games, and watch sports. She even started watching soccer with me and reminds me when my games are on.
Peace in a manโs life is priceless.
I wish every man out there a safe journey in finding a woman like her. I know I did. And Iโm never leaving my wife. Sheโs South American.
Before we left Nigeria, my wife worked with one of the new generation banks on the Island. She leaves home as early as 5:30am and comes back sometime, 10pm.
Some days, I will go to Marina to pick her or some days I will pick her up at either Ojota or Berger.
One evening, I went to pick her up at Ojota, the traffic was so terrible that day and she had to stand in the BRT all the way from Marina to Ojota. She was exhausted!
Immediately she entered the car, she adjusted the front seat, rested her back, and started crying, without saying a word! When we got to Agidingbi, there was another horrible traffic, she looked outside the window, shook her head and said "This is not life" Then she started crying again. We got home around 1am that day.
Today, she works in a hybrid environment with better conditions of service and of course, better remuneration.
The stress Nigerians pass through just to make a living is unnecessary, avoidable, and uncalled for if only we had sensible people in government.
I pity this guy because he won't be able to sustain this lifestyle for 5 consecutive years, he will break down mentally, financially, emotionally, and psychologically.
@Hanike_B That's why I would rather live in a sane system with ยฃ3k/month than stay in a dysfunctional system with a lot of money. It is not worth it.
It would be a waste to spend one's entire lifetime in a dysfunctional state like Nigeria.
People need to go out and experience the normal.
@guzu_p Men no suppose get problem with gifting women wey dey give them fuq.
I see no P with this.
Na when the man dey credit girls him no fuq, that's when he is a fuuula