A narcissist operates under a private set of RULES that only ever applies to you. They are free to demean, dismiss, speak harshly, and behave without consideration. That is simply who they are. But the moment you object, respond, or draw a line around your own dignity, you have become the aggressor. Suddenly your self-defense is the PROBLEM. Their behavior disappears from the record entirely and is replaced by a version of events in which you are difficult, irrational, and impossible to deal with. They will not examine what they have done. The mirror never faces them.
In their world, they are simply never the one at fault.
Most narcissists are habitual liars.
They don’t just manipulate other people, they manipulate themselves.
They believe their own lies so they can avoid the truth, which is why they can hurt others and still see themselves as good people.
Cinta aja ternyata emang gak selalu cukup ya. Kadang yang bikin hubungan jalan lama bukan cuma karena sama-sama sayang, tapi juga karena sama-sama ngerti gimana cara pasangan ngerasa dicintai. Soalnya tiap orang punya cara yang beda buat nerima kasih sayang.
Ada yang ngerasa dicintai kalau sering dikasih waktu, ada yang butuh kata-kata yang bikin tenang, ada yang lebih suka diperhatiin lewat tindakan kecil, atau sekadar ditemenin di saat lagi capek.
Kalau aku terus ngasih cinta dengan caraku, sementara kamu butuh dicintai dengan cara yang lain, ujung-ujungnya bakal ada rasa, “kok aku gak ngerasa disayang ya?” Padahal mungkin kita sama-sama sayang, cuma bahasanya aja yang beda.
Akhirnya malah jadi terus berharap, terus ngarepin pasangan berubah sesuai apa yang kita mau. Lama-lama capek sendiri, karena ngerasa usaha kita gak pernah nyampe, dan ekspektasi kita juga gak pernah bener-bener terpenuhi.
Makanya, selain cinta, belajar ngerti love language satu sama lain juga penting. Biar yang satu gak capek ngasih, dan yang satunya lagi gak terus ngerasa kurang dicintai.
Do not regret the love you gave, even to those who did not deserve it. Your generosity does not make you foolish — it makes you rare. You gave from a pure heart, and that is something to be proud of. They lost someone who truly loved them. You only lost someone who never truly valued you.
Girls who grew up in broken homes don't have big dreams.
They dream of a home nobody can take away, and a man who won't abandon them.
Not a mansion. Not a fairytale. Just stability. Just a door that stays open the next morning, a bed that doesn't get sold out from under her, a family that doesn't disappear the second things get hard. When home wasn't safe growing up, the bar shifts completely she's not chasing extravagant, she's chasing permanent.
Pelajaran pahit soal pertemanan di usia dewasa:
• Sebaik apa pun kita, belum tentu orang ngelihat kita sebagai orang baik.
• Temen yang kita prioritasin belum tentu menganggap kita sama.
• Effort yang kita kasih tulus belum tentu dibales setara.
• Kebaikan yang kita maksud tulus, sering disalahartikan punya "maksud terselubung".
Gapapa, tulus aja terus. Cuma bedanya, sekarang harus lebih selektif nempatinnya
Babe, remember:
The victim of narcissistic abuse is often the one who’s visibly breaking down. They’re the one crying, reacting, and looking “crazy” because they’ve been pushed to their emotional limit.
Meanwhile, the abuser stays calm and composed, telling everyone, “See? Look how crazy they are.”
It’s strange how, in this generation, when victims finally speak about how they were hurt, they’re often labeled as “toxic” or “dramatic”. Weren’t we the same people encouraging them to find their voice?
The irony is that when they stay quiet, they’re told to speak up. But when they finally do, they’re criticized for being inappropriate, pretentious, or simply told they should have kept it to themselves.
A narcissist is: A victim of everything, responsible for nothing, offended by everything, contributing nothing, yet entitled to everything.
No matter what happens, somehow the blame always lands on everyone else. They rewrite stories to protect their image, avoid accountability like it's a disease, and expect endless understanding while giving very little in return. They can hurt people deeply, then act shocked when those same people finally react or walk away.
NARCISSIST 💯
N – Never admits fault
A – Avoids accountability
R – Rages when challenged
C – Childish when denied
I – Instills self-doubt
S – Stonewalls
S – Smears you
I – Gaslights
S – Silent treatment
T – Triangulates & tears you down