Ya Allah, I confess to You that it is so easy to find faults in people around me, while totally overlooking my own discrepancies. Ya Allah, even the slightest discomfort that comes from someone irritates me and puts me off.
To reconnect with the person who hurt you can feel like disrespecting the version of you who had to survive them. The version of you who cried over it. The version who questioned everything, lost sleep, tried to understand what happened and slowly had to put themselves back together. You worked so hard to find peace after they disrupted it. So sometimes, going back isn’t about whether they’ve changed. It’s about remembering what it cost you to finally walk away. Don’t let loneliness make you romanticise the person you had to heal from. Protect the version of you who finally found the strength to leave.
I think it depends on what the attraction was built on in the first place. If it was mainly physical appearance and sexual attraction, then it’s understandable that interest may fade over time as novelty and looks change. But when a man is genuinely attracted to the woman herself – her character, mind, femininity, values and the connection between them -I don’t think time or marriage automatically makes him lose interest. In fact, that kind of attraction can deepen.
Infelizmente, sou uma pessoa que leva as palavras a sério. Então, sim, eu me lembro de cada coisinha que você disse, e isso ficou comigo, seja bom ou ruim.
A healthy man will change once he realizes he is hurting you.
A toxic man will hurt you, gaslight you, then expect you to accept him exactly as he is.
Respect is proven through actions, not repeated apologies.
Some men will say, "I'd destroy any man who treated my daughter like that," while treating someone else's daughter exactly like that. The disconnect will never make sense to me.
Take the blame and disappear. Become the villain and exit the story. There's no point writing paragraphs explaining how someone's actions made you feel. There's no point trying to make someone understand they wronged you when they lack the basic capacity for accountability.
i really hate the type of person that secretly resents you and builds up all these negative opinions about ur character then waits until an argument to unload everything they’ve apparently been holding onto for a very long time!!
I don’t know when women lost the plot but your kids should have your last name as the mother. It’s exhausting seeing men get so much credit for doing the bare minimum.