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After the live game, I’d walk up to people and interview them. I noticed that a lot of people were saying No. It usually goes like this.
Me: Hi, can I interview you?
Them: Where will you post it?
Me: My social media
Them: I will pass
So I reframed it
Me: Hi, can I interview you for MoneyAfrica, a leading financial literacy platform with about 1 million following across multiple platforms.
Them: YES
If you keep getting Nos, consider reframing your offering.
It’s the usual Nigerian “sharpness” syndrome where everyone is desperate to be a “sharp guy”. In a society where cutting corners is celebrated as wisdom, integrity will always be treated like naïveté.
@SirJarus So a tactical manager can more easily blend his team to stop England than Columbia who combines strength and tact. except that there is Kane in the case of England.
@SirJarus You know England plays like Mechanics working on cars just like Arsenal. No team/individual technicality and flair to change dynamics like Spain and France and nothing like artists right?
Obi Cubana says he made his first million as a corper, doing real estate on 5% commissions. In 1999.
While others were counting down to passing out parade, he was closing deals.
Here is the quiet lesson for every serving corper reading this. Your service year is not a waiting room. It is a full year of time, access, and a uniform that opens doors you cannot open later.
Most people spend it waiting for alawee. A few spend it building. Guess which one is still telling the story twenty years later.
A headline like this can crush you if you let it.
Do not.
One country's no is not a verdict on your life. It is one door, run by one set of rules, on one particular day. There are others, and some of them lead further than the one that rejected you.
I have watched people get turned down by the UK and end up thriving somewhere they had not even considered. The rejection did not define them. What they did next did.
Grieve the no if you must. Then go find the yes. It exists.
@SirJarus I think people should be kind to those they ask questions or for help from. Don't ask someone a question that will require them to use Google on your behalf or a search system. You can do that yourself, trust yourself.
I used to buy those cheap sunglasses from the roadside all the time and always thought, "What's the point of buying expensive ones? I'm going to loose them anyway." Then one day, I gathered the courage and bought an expensive sunglasses. And guess what? I still have them. I've taken care of them ever since.
That's when I realized those cheap sunglasses weren't getting lost because they were cheap? They were getting lost because I didn't value them enough to care. It's hard to accept, but sometimes in someone else's story, you are that cheap pair of sunglasses.
A lady on X sent me a message a few months ago. She had just finished university and needed help with internet data. She had a bad laptop, a weak phone, and poor headphones. She was managing, but not for long.
I saw myself in her.
Years ago, strangers on the internet helped me when I had nothing. So I decided to help her financially, even if it was just a little.
At the time, she was trying to get into Virtual Assistant and Customer Support roles. I told her to aim higher.
I gave her my router, bought her noise-canceling headphones, mentored her, and redirected her energy into the SDR/BDR niche.
I paid for some of her courses and told her one thing:
"We've lived similar lives. Keep going. Things will work out."
She would cry sometimes. 😂
I'd tell her to stop focusing on the problems and start focusing on solutions. I shared my own stories, encouraged her, and reminded her that hard seasons don't last forever.
She eventually got an onsite job.
Two weeks later, she quit.
Most people would call that a failure.
I didn't.
The job was draining her, and sometimes walking away from the wrong opportunity is what creates room for the right one.
Then another challenge came.
Electricity.
No light. No stable power. Even with a remote job opportunity, she couldn't work consistently.
Then she landed her first international remote job through LinkedIn.
Base pay of over $500 a month, depending on the number of accounts she manages, plus commissions.
It should have been the happiest moment.
But power was still the problem.
She reached out to people for help. Nothing.
She came back to me and asked if I could lend her money to buy an itel PowerTank.
I thought about it for a while.
Then I sent it.
Today, she has paid me back.
Now she can buy whatever she wants without asking anyone.
Very soon, she'll be earning her first million naira.
Here's the lesson.
I'm not rich.
I don't have millions lying around.
But every Wednesday, I host X Spaces to teach people what I know because knowledge changed my life.
The only reason I invested this much in her was because she kept showing up.
I saw her consistency.
I saw her willingness to learn.
I saw that she wasn't waiting for life to magically change.
People are willing to help people who are helping themselves.
You can't do it alone.
You need people.
You need mentors.
You need community.
And when life finally changes for you, receive it with both hands.
Someone else's kindness can change your life.
Make sure your consistency gives them a reason to believe in you.
@SirJarus Do we have subs in Super Eagles? Can we have Mbaye Ibrahim who plays and wins UCL's at PSG and use him in the second half? How many of our stars play for the Biggest clubs bar Lookman and Osimhen?
@BWLawal@SirJarus Just one of those comparative arguments Nigerians use to upend failure, this time around, failure to qualify. I doubt we know who started it. No Nigerian players play for Real, Man Utd, Liverpool, Arsenal, Bayern, PSG, City, Barca, Inter. Yet Nigerians emotionally raise their bar