Bayan B

Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

Living for other people's validation means living according to their values and not yours which means you are creating a life that may not be valuable to you. @JayShettyIW #beyourself

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

I can’t count the number of times I heard a mother say how stronger she felt with her gym training compared to before having had 2 kids!

سبحان الله

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

Having a baby physically shrinks part of a woman's brain. Having a second baby shrinks a totally different part. Scientists in Amsterdam just figured out why, and the explanation involves the same process that happens in teenage brains.

This is from a research group in Amsterdam called the Pregnancy Brain Lab. They published their findings in Nature Communications on February 19, 2026. The team scanned the brains of 110 women. 40 were about to have their first baby, 30 were about to have their second, and 40 had never been pregnant. They scanned everyone before pregnancy and again after birth.

The results were so consistent that a computer program could look at any of those brain scans and correctly tell whether the woman had been pregnant. Every single time.

When a woman has her first baby, the biggest changes happen in the part of the brain that handles thinking about yourself and other people. The same region that runs daydreaming and inner monologue. That whole area visibly shrinks. And it stays shrunk for at least six years after birth, according to a 2021 follow-up study by the same team.

When she has a second baby, that same area shifts a little more, but the biggest changes happen somewhere else. They happen in the part of the brain that controls what you focus on, and the part that controls how your body moves. Even the wiring between the brain and the muscles becomes more efficient. Lead researcher Milou Straathof said it looks like the brain rewiring itself for taking care of more than one kid at a time.

The shrinking sounds bad. The lab compares it to what happens in teenage brains during puberty. Hormones flood the brain and trigger a kind of cleanup. Weak connections between brain cells get cleared away. The strong ones stay and get stronger. The brain ends up smaller, but the connections that remain work faster. The hormonal flood of pregnancy seems to do the same thing.

Elseline Hoekzema, who runs the Pregnancy Brain Lab and has been studying this since 2017, told CNN: sometimes less is more.

The pattern is layered. The first pregnancy does the deep work on identity and how a mom thinks about her baby. The second pregnancy adds a new layer focused on attention and movement.

About one in five new mothers globally develops postpartum depression. The same brain circuits being remodeled here are the ones tied to mood and bonding with the baby. Mapping what a healthy maternal brain looks like is the first step toward catching when something goes wrong.

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

They put 17 people, married an average of 21 years, into a brain scanner and showed them a photo of their spouse. The same parts of the brain lit up that fire when a teenager has their first crush. Two decades together, and the chemistry was still going off like fireworks.

The study ran at Stony Brook in 2011. What changes after 20 years is the anxiety. That panic of not knowing if they love you back, the wondering, the checking. All of that fades. The pull toward them stays.

So that tells you what old love looks like in the brain. It doesn’t tell you how a couple gets there.

A marriage researcher named John Gottman has spent 40 years on that question. He films couples arguing in his lab at the University of Washington and predicts whether they’ll divorce. He gets it right 93.6% of the time, from 15 minutes of footage. More than 3,000 couples now.

He watches the two-second moments between sentences. The pauses. That’s where the prediction lives. The fights themselves matter less.

His go-to example: your wife is staring out the window and says, look at that bird. You glance up and say, oh wow. Or you keep scrolling on your phone. That tiny choice, that little reach for your attention, is what he calls a bid.

He watched newlyweds in his lab and followed them for six years. The couples who were still married had responded to each other’s bids 86 times out of 100. The couples who divorced had responded 33 out of 100. Same money fights. Same in-laws. Same dishes in the sink. The one thing that was different was the bird.

This part stopped me. Gottman found that 69% of the things every couple fights about are problems that never get solved. The chores. The money. His mother. Whose family they spend Christmas with. The arguments repeat for 50 years. Happy couples and unhappy couples have roughly the same list of problems. The happy ones learned to argue about that list without contempt. The eye roll. The sigh. The little smile that says you are pathetic. Gottman calls contempt the sulfuric acid of relationships. He says it’s the single biggest sign that a marriage is over.

When you see two old people asleep on each other on a plane, the forgiveness in that picture is real. They have absorbed thousands of small failures by now. There is something quieter underneath the forgiveness, though. Decades ago, one of them said look at that bird. The other one looked up.

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

Some people love you, and some people just love how they feel when they’re loved by you.

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

Think in decades and act in days

[ناصر الجميعة @NaserJumaih]

قوة الرجل في الانجاز ..

وقوة الانثى في العلاقات وتوفير دفء الحياة ..

لايستطيع أحدهما منافسة الآخر في ملعبه..

[ناصر الجميعة @NaserJumaih]

لاتستطيع أن تحب انسان وتشك فيه في نفس اللحظه..

اللحظه التي تحاول فيها فتح جوال شخص عشان تتأكد ماذا يخفي عنك هي مؤشر عدم وجود مشاعر الحب ..

ولو تلاحظ أنه سلوك يحدث بين الازواج ولايحدث مع أم وابنه�� ..

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

There’ll be happiness after me, but there was happiness because of me.

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

"People follow incentives, not advice."

–@JamesClear

[غرام @gxsxs]

Nothing ruins your perception of yourself like paying 25 riyals on delivery on an 18 riyal coffee

[غرام @gxsxs]

Allah the men you put on this earth to build homes and fight wars are being cringey on tiktok

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

من أجمل القبلات هي القبلة على جبين المراة 🤍

[روان القناص @Rawanalganas]

You can never get enough of what you never really want .. Minimalist

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

"The challenge for anyone interested in making progress is to simultaneously have (1) the confidence to go after what you want and (2) the humility to accept who you are right now and (3) the willingness to build skills that bridge the gap between 1 and 2."

–@JamesClear

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

"There are nearly endless opportunities to improve each day and finding them largely boils down to being curious.

People who are better in the end are usually curious in the beginning."

–@JamesClear

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

The only thing keeping me together rn is the fact that I still have 5 unwatched seasons of the The Office to go.

[Lewis Howes @LewisHowes]

Mindset is everything. The way you think affects your energy and actions. Change your thoughts and your life will start to change.

[أ. د. طارق الحبيب @Talhabeeb]

مفهوم الذات هو ما أحمله من تقديرات عن نفسي أيها الإنسان، هذه النفس ما تقديراتي لها؟ ما نظراتي لها؟ كيف أرى سلبياتي؟ كيف أرى إيجابياتي؟ الواحد منا يبتهج بإيجابياته وربما تعالى أمام الناس بكلامه عنها، وأما السلبيات فلا يحب أن يذكره أحد بها، وبهذه الصورة لن يكون سوياً
#طارق_الحبيب

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

@Aramex_KSA can you please respond to my DM.

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

Forgiveness is not for the faint of heart. 🤍

[أخبار السعودية @SaudiNews50]

خطيب المسجد الحرام:

علموا أولادكم أن التسامح ليس ضعفاً ولا هواناً..علموهم أن الله هو الرقيب وال��سيب على عباده ، وأنهم ليسوا أوصياء على الناس.

[Bayan B @Bayounii]

@Aramex_KSA I placed an order via shop&ship and for some reason it has been stuck at customs for around a month now. Your team is not providing me with any information on when I will receive it despite providing them with all necessary ID information.