If you want to do something, you have to start doing the thing. Wishing and hoping won't make it happen. Start the doing. Planning isnt doing. Researching isn't doing. DO THE THING you want to do. Life is short and getting shorter.
Gossip is the devils work. It never serves you, just belittles yourself in front of others. As you trash talk others, your audience is thinking that you will eventually gossip about them as well. Try to get a little bit better today by taking one day off from gossiping and let me know how it goes.
Regret is an interesting feeling. I've decided that this is something I'm not wasting my energy on. I made the best decision I could with the information I had at the time. I think about what may have happened with another decision but only fleetingly. It's a waste of your time too.
Find your walk-up song, the song or songs that get you fired up. Play them first thing every day. Be your own hype man. Baseball players can't have all the fun. Start the day on a high note (pun intended) and tackle the day with gusto.
@digiii π―If you read The Science of Scaling by Benjamin Hardy he talks a lot about this, coupled with an unrealistic aggressive time line for achievement. Great book worth your time.
Get in the practice of writing thank you notes. Texts can be ignored, calls go to voicemail, but a mailed, handwritten note will be read 100% of the time. You'll be shocked by the reactions you get from your recipients. It's been a great practice for me.
I turn 60 today so statistically my life is 80% over. Just recently I've started to adopt the word urgency as my mantra. Not because I'm older but because I have spent my life being the good corporate worker in a line of work I am very good at, but it is not exciting nor fulfilling. I have no regrets. I just want to explore more creative outlets. I never have because my self talk was overwhelmingly negative. Well, no more. I've started writing more, creating t shirts and exploring other activities. Life is precious so we don't have any time to waste. Let's have fun and get after it.
@MasteryNotes Agree wholeheartedly. Steps toward your goal, no.matter how small, make a big difference. Not only in achievement but in your overall psyche. You become a person who does things, who takes action, who is moving. Confidence, purpose and meaning follow very quickly.
We recently had to put down our 15.5 yo cockapoo, Stanley. The depth of the grief I experienced was shocking. I felt guilty for a long time because I didn't feel the same grief when my mother and brother died. I wondered if I didn't love them as much as my dog, and that made me sadder. But I quickly learned that they are two different experiences. The constant presence, daily excitement, and unconditional love from a pet is a great experience and also an unfathomable loss when it leaves you. I still think about the people close to me who have died while also missing my dog. Both can exist at the same time. Please hug your pup and be grateful for every day you have with them.
@thebeautyofsaas π―I think everyone needs to take time each day to incubate their passion and sense of exploration. Making time to expand yourself only helps you in every other area of life.
@WisdomStoics Sometimes thinking of this question is scary. By thinking the opposite we are protecting ourselves from the let down if it doesn't workout. It's a typical half glass empty or full proposition. What if it all works out is much more fun to contemplate.
I felt this post in my soul. I had younger co-workers ask me if it was fun growing up in the 80s. I hadn't really thought about it but yeah it was awesome. People were real, racism wasn't really a thing. Assholes were assholes no matter what the color or ethnicity. In person was the only way to talk and get to know people. I miss those days. (Cue the Jurassic Park music). Hahaha
@da_austinz @conductr_ Austin, I am sorry to hear that. But your quality of life is much better without the negativity. Find your tribe and ignore the rest. You're the man.