@spngbwb Understandable but unfortunately there’s nothing you can do after you already stated your peace and tried, best you can do is pray and move on.
@MrOnionmaster@choppaslide What you said doesn’t make any sense at all, how is it worse? When’s there’s no real attachment or commitment, it’s just something you notice, accept and move on, doing this to someone you’re in a committed relationship would be way worse.
@bigdog_419@choppaslide But again, the point I ultimately was trying to make was to point out how ridiculous it was to call it self sabotage, that’s all.
@bigdog_419@choppaslide And the truth is that sometimes they do something I don’t like, sometimes in the moment I’m not that concerned with them & I simply do not reply, because I’m not interested.
@bigdog_419@choppaslide Sometimes you can simply be busy, tired, etc and just noticing that someone hasn’t reached out too you in a reasonable interval especially when you consider the rate that you do lol
@bigdog_419@choppaslide And aren’t they abandoning you in a sense if you’re trying at minimum 80% of the time and once you lessen or cease contact, they just fall off the face off the earth, that’s ultimately what this conversation is about & to show that it ISNT self sabotage to do that.
@bigdog_419@choppaslide In a world where people are conditioned to be polite and kind and socially acceptable, I think it’s more wise to test and almost disavow what they say to see if their actions match it, its personal and I don’t believe myself to be “right” on this matter.
@bigdog_419@choppaslide My response to this is simply, you can get to the bottom of it with words, which can lead to some revelation, but ultimately its action that speaks the loudest.
@bigdog_419@choppaslide And you can be considerate, you can communicate all you’d like and try your best & sometimes people still won’t be as cool with you as you think they are, going as far as you feeling like you guys aren’t as cool as you initially thought, because they don’t initiate contact.