I really want everyone to find people and spaces where they're cared for deeply. Not merely performative gestures and speeches for social media, but genuine friendship, companionship, and love that doesn't require you to do anything but be authentic and grow.
My therapist dropped a gem: you can't spend your life avoiding heartbreak or bad things from happening. You have to condition yourself to have appropriate emotional responses but learn to keep moving forward.
@African_Spring This is proof that your assumption is wrong. It is not a universally known fact. Everyone is not exposed to the same things. Remember that we are all very small pieces of a large puzzle. ☮️
The quickest way to “get your spark back” is to literally light yourself on fire. You’ve got to burn baby. You’re depressed bc you’re not being insane enough. Double. Down. The world does not reward half ass. All in or out. You’re thinking too small. You’ve accepted your current reality as the only reality. Bullshit. You need to write a list of the most insane asks you could ever dream of. “I am a NYT best selling author. I am the founder of a Fortune 500 company. I paint for a living and I make a damn good living.” Ask and you shall receive. Embody and you become. Flip the fucking script. Your current ceiling is now the floor. Level up.
You need to burn.
I’m a firm believer that you get your spark back man. I mean it might take time, a million obstacles but eventually you do. Life is worth living again. And it’s so beautiful ❤️
it is an unwritten rule of life that after every prolonged period of hardship and uncertainty, there is going to be a period when you are going to achieve quantum leaps across multiple areas of your life. the only requirement is that you do not give up on yourself.
I'm at a point in my life where I pray to keep meeting the right people. People who genuinely want the best for me, hold me in high regard, and add peace to my life.
My neighbor's kid just quit the high school swim team after three years of being the slowest in every event. Kid was devastated. Thought he just didn't have it.
His dad, who swam competitively back in the day, couldn't figure it out. The kid had decent form, He trained hard. But his times were consistently 15-20% slower than kids with half his work ethic.
Out of frustration, the dad took him to a sports medicine clinic to get evaluated. Maybe asthma, Maybe something structural.
Doctor runs him through some tests. Watches him swim, Pulls the dad aside after and says: "Your son's goggles are filled with water, He's basically swimming blind and has been compensating by lifting his head every third stroke to see where he's going. It's adding massive drag."
Turns out the goggles were cheap ones from a big-box store. Seal was shot, Had been for over a year. Kid just thought that's how goggles worked, that everyone swam with water sloshing around their eyes.
They bought him a proper pair. First practice back, he dropped 18 seconds off his freestyle time.
Eighteen seconds, Because of a $12 piece of equipment nobody thought to replace.
Coach moved him up two lanes within a month.
The lesson stuck with me, How many people are out there right now grinding themselves into the dirt, convinced they're just not good enough, when really they're just working with broken tools and nobody's bothered to check?
Sometimes the problem isn't you.