“Say what you want”
Ok, I will. He shouldn’t be in the league. He’s a sick individual and if you defend him online, he won’t see it, but the women in your life that have been victims of Sexual Assault will.
Things a husband should be able to do:
If you can't do these, you're not a partner. You're another kid for her to manage.
Here's the list:
• Take care of bedtime solo
Bath, teeth, pajamas, story, tucked in.
Without texting her 47 times asking where things are.
• Pack lunches the kids will actually eat
Not just throw random stuff in a bag.
Know what they like. What they'll eat. What the school allows.
This is basic parenting.
• Back up your wife to the kids
Even if you disagree with her decision, back her up in the moment.
Handle disagreements LATER in private.
Never undermine her in front of the kids. Ever.
• Provide for your family
Not just financially. Emotionally too.
Be present. Be engaged. Be a leader.
Money matters, but so does showing up.
• Cook an actual meal
Not just order DoorDash.
Make something. Feed your family. Clean up after.
• Clean without being asked
See the mess? Clean it.
Don't wait for her to ask. Don't expect praise.
You live here too. Act like it.
• Manage hygiene and health
Bath time. Brush teeth. Trim nails. Take them to doctor/dentist appointments.
Know when their checkups are. Schedule them. Take care of it.
Don't make her do everything.
• Know what's happening in their lives
Their teachers' names. Their friends' names. What they're learning.
Be involved. Ask questions. Show up.
Don't be the dad who has no idea what's going on.
• Discipline consistently
Don't be the "fun parent" who lets everything slide.
Hold boundaries. Back up the rules. Be consistent.
She shouldn't be the only one enforcing discipline.
• Plan date nights
Don't just say "We should go out sometime."
Pick a day. Get a babysitter. Make a reservation. Plan something.
She does 1000 things for your family. You can plan one date.
• Grocery shop
With a list. Without complaining. Get what's needed.
She shouldn't have to manage every household task.
You're capable. Act like it.
• Handle tantrums in public
Calmly. Effectively. Without losing your cool.
She does this constantly. You can too.
Step up when things get hard.
• Show affection to your wife
In front of the kids. In public. At home.
Hug her. Kiss her. Hold her hand.
Model what a loving marriage looks like.
• Apologize when you're wrong
To your wife. To your kids.
"I was wrong. I'm sorry."
Strong men own their mistakes.
• Listen without fixing
Sometimes she just needs to vent.
Don't immediately try to solve everything.
Just listen. Be present. Support her.
• Handle basic home maintenance
Fix things. Keep the house from falling apart.
You don't need to be a contractor. But you should be capable of basic upkeep.
• Support HER goals and dreams
Not just expect her to support yours.
What does SHE want? What are HER dreams?
Marriage is a partnership. Act like it.
If you can't do these things, you're not a husband.
You're a man-child who needs a mommy, not a partner.
Your wife shouldn't have to parent you AND the kids.
Be the man she married.
Step up.
I don’t like Ovi because a) while I recognize he’s very good I’ve never found his play all that exciting or fun, and b) he doesn’t seem like a nice person, but nothing affirms that more than how he has easily the most unpleasant fanbase of any player I’ve ever talked shit about.