Priyamvada Pandey

Experience on life path 😊

Psychotherapist || Mental Health || #CBT #ERP #OCDexpert #Expert_in_deaddiction

President- Manotkarsh Foundation Trust

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Your #HairFall has nothing to do with expensive #shampoos .

It's what's missing on your plate.

1. PROTEIN (strong strands)
Eggs, paneer, lentils, rajma, greek yogurt, sunflower seeds

2. IRON & ZINC (less hair fall)
Moringa leaves, pomegranate, spinach

3. VITAMINS (scalp health)
Ragi, papaya, guava

4. OMEGA-3 (shine & moisture)
Salmon, chia, flax, walnuts, pumpkin seeds

5. HORMONE BALANCE
Sesame seeds, methi seeds, ghee, pudina tea

Your hair doesn't need more products.
It needs better food.

#HairCare

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Your Partner Must Know Where You Are

Some couples don’t share their whereabouts - not cheating - just taking each other for granted. Silence breeds suspicion. A simple call/text can protect trust and prevent needless tension.

Some go home late without notice. Others leave town without saying a word. That’s not freedom - it’s disrespect. Marriage demands periodic updates. Secrets break marriage.

If you don’t want anyone to ask you questions - stay single. Marriage requires communication - clarity, not guesswork. Love informs. Silence distances. Vagueness kills trust.

Don’t wait to be asked - update freely. A quick message is kindness. Coming home late? Say so. Traveling? Discuss it first. Respect your partner’s peace of mind. Let your hearts stay in touch.

Your partner deserves to know where you are - not because they control you, but because they care. That’s not surveillance - it’s sacred trust. The marriage privilege comes with responsibility.

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Sometimes, the disrespect at the end becomes louder than every good memory that came before it. And that's when something inside you finally says, enough.

People don't usually walk away because of one bad day. They walk away after too many days of swallowing hurt, forgiving things that should never have happened, and holding on to memories of how good the relationship used to feel. They remember the laughter, the good years, the little moments that once made everything worth it. They keep hoping those moments will come back.

But there comes a point when the good memories can no longer cover the way someone is treating you now. The words become harder to forget. The disrespect starts changing the way you see the person you once trusted. And slowly, the heart gets tired, not because it stopped loving, but because it has been asked to tolerate too much for too long.

Sometimes there isn't one final betrayal or one dramatic ending. Sometimes it's just the quiet realization that the person you keep trying to understand no longer makes you feel safe, valued, or respected. You stop arguing. You stop explaining. You stop hoping for the same things you've been hoping for all along.

And that's when you know you're done. Not because the good memories meant nothing, but because you finally understand that good memories cannot be the reason you keep accepting a painful present.

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Healing is less about getting rid of the trauma and more about expanding the parts of life that are not trauma.

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Never dismiss someone’s feelings simply because their reaction doesn’t make sense to you.

We all experience the world through different histories, losses, relationships, fears, sensitivities and memories. What feels small to one person can touch something much deeper in another.

We don’t all carry the same wounds, so we won’t always respond to the same situation in the same way.

Respecting someone’s emotions doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything they say or accept every behaviour that comes from those emotions.

It simply means recognising that what they are feeling is real to them.

We don’t get to decide how hurt someone is “allowed” to be just because we would have reacted differently.

And support doesn’t always require perfect advice.

Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is stay close, listen, and resist the urge to compare, minimise or rush someone through what they’re feeling.

Sometimes support sounds like:

“I may not fully understand what this feels like for you, but I’m here.”

No “you’re overreacting.”
No “other people have it worse.”
No pressure to move on before they’re ready.

Just presence.
Patience.
Empathy.

You don’t have to feel someone else’s pain in exactly the same way to believe that it is real.

What helps you feel truly heard when you’re going through something difficult...?

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The older you get, the people who matter most are the ones who make you feel seen, heard, and supported not just the ones who've been around the longest.

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Marry the Person You Find Beautiful

Marry someone you genuinely find beautiful. You’ll kiss that person for life. You’ll wake up to that face every morning - make sure it makes you smile and sets your soul on fire, every day.

But look beyond curves and fair skin. Choose someone whose faith, dreams and mindset align. Character sustains what chemistry starts. Vision glues what attraction begins.

And remember looks don’t maintain themselves. A happy heart reflects on the face. Inner peace polishes outer glow. People shine when they’re emotionally safe and consistently loved.

Also, flexibility sustains marriage more than sameness. You can live with anyone you choose to love - but shared faith, values and dreams make the journey smoother and deeply fulfilling.

In love, don’t ignore your eyes. Don’t settle down out of pity, panic or pressure. Attraction matters. But lasting love is built daily, with intention, patience, kindness and shared purpose.

#RelationshipCoach

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Tolerate Your Partner...?

Welcome to Marriage...!

She shops for hours. He watches football till midnight. She feels cold at night and wraps in three duvets. He sweats and sleeps without underwear. That’s a normal marriage.

Tolerate the little things in life - not abuse. All forms of abuse - physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual - are red lines. But when it comes to personal flaws, nobody is perfect. Just love them.

Marriage is managing opposites without fighting. Love learns, adjusts, and laughs at a partner’s “funny” ways. Same bathroom - she showers in boiling water; he prefers it lukewarm.

Some days, she just wants to be held and sleep - he wants to dig deep. It’s not just your house. Testosterone levels are naturally higher in men - though some women are bad number!

Learn to “tolerate” each other’s little joys. Tastes differ - so do moods, meals, and music. No one wins when everyone insists. Flexibility isn’t losing yourself. It’s finding middle ground.

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I can forgive what your pain made you do to us, but I can't pretend it didn't change me.

I know you were fighting battles inside yourself that I couldn't always see. I know some of the things you did came from wounds you never healed. And maybe I spent too much time trying to understand you, hoping that if I loved you enough, you would eventually choose to heal instead of letting your pain spill into our relationship.

But understanding you didn't make it hurt any less. I was still the one left picking up the pieces. I was still the one wondering why the person I loved could make me feel so alone. There were moments when I needed you to fight for us, but you were too busy fighting yourself.

So yes, I forgive you. Not because what happened was okay, and not because I've forgotten the nights I cried or the parts of me that changed because of you. I forgive you because I don't want to carry the weight of what you couldn't heal.

But I'll never forget. Some wounds don't stay open forever, but they leave a scar, and sometimes that scar is the only reminder of how much you once loved someone who wasn't ready to stop hurting them.

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Sometimes your partner brushes against something and you react way harder than the moment calls for. You just hit a raw spot.

We all have them.

They're the tender places left by old hurts, and when a partner accidentally presses one, the pain that comes up belongs partly to the past. Learning to say "that touched a raw spot for me" instead of attacking can change the whole conversation.

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☕ ₹300 for coffee. ₹300 for a burger. ₹350–₹400 for biryani.

And honestly, we don’t think twice about spending it.

A coffee takes 10–15 minutes to finish. A burger, maybe 15–20. A box of biryani, perhaps 20 minutes.

And a few hours later, we’re hungry again and spend again.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with spending on food or little things that make us happy. ❤️

But when it comes to therapy, we often pause.

“Therapy is expensive.”

During a recent survey, I came across people who genuinely wanted professional psychological support but felt hesitant or simply weren’t financially able to pay the regular cost of a therapy session.

And that’s exactly why we’re bringing back our Trial Session Pack. 🌱

Last year, around this exact time, we launched our trial sessions at ₹1000/session and served more than 30 People in need.

This year, we’re making it ₹1200 for an hour session.

🌿 Session Details

• ₹1200 per session
• 60 minutes
• Online session via Google Meet
• Payment/booking Via GPay
• Sessions will be scheduled based on confirmed bookings received.

We will take forward only the number of confirmed bookings we received, so please don’t comment unless you genuinely intend to take the session.

To participate, simply comment “INTERESTED” and I’ll share the details with you.

This initiative can especially make professional support a little more accessible for school students, college students, young adults, and anyone who has been wanting to try therapy but couldn’t afford the regular session fee.

And if you know someone who might benefit from this, please share this post on your profile. ❤️

Maybe ₹1200 is still not a small amount for everyone.

But perhaps, for someone who has been quietly struggling and waiting for an affordable opportunity to reach out, this could be the beginning.

Let’s make mental health support a little more accessible. 🌱

Only serious enquiries, please.

#therapist
#MentalWellness

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

मोबाइल और हम.....

मोबाइल हाथ में आया,
तो दूर की दुनिया पास हो गई,
पर न जाने कब हमारी,
अपनों से दूरी खास हो गई।

सुबह की पहली नजर मोबाइल पर,
रात की आखिरी बात भी वही,
पास बैठे अपनों से बातें कम,
दूर वालों की खबरें सही।

मां पूछे- “बेटा, खाना खाया?”
जवाब आता- “हां मां…बस दो मिनट।”
और वो दो मिनट साहब,
कब दो घंटे हो जाएं…
पता ही नहीं चलता!

कभी चिट्ठियों में प्यार था,
कभी मिलने की खुशी थी,
अब मैसेज में “कैसे हो?”
और सामने बैठा अपना ही
सोचता है- “भाई, मैं भी यहीं हूं!”

दोस्त सामने बैठा हो,
फिर भी चैट किसी और से चलती है,
घर में चार लोग बैठे हों,
लेकिन हर किसी की दुनिया
अलग-अलग स्क्रीन पर चलती है।

मोबाइल बुरा नहीं दोस्त,
बस इतना ध्यान रखना,
बैटरी खत्म होने से पहले
रिश्ते डिस्चार्ज न हो जाएं।

कभी मोबाइल रखकर देखो,
अपनों की आंखों में झांककर,
शायद जिंदगी ज्यादा खूबसूरत लगे,
थोड़ा सा “ऑनलाइन” से निकलकर।

मोबाइल ने हमें दुनिया से जोड़ दिया,
बस अफसोस…
उसी मोबाइल ने हमें
हमारे अपनों से थोड़ा दूर कर दिया।

और सच कहूं…

ऑनलाइन स्टेटस देखकर
किसी के “एक्टिव” होने का इंतजार मत करो,
कभी सामने बैठे अपने से पूछ लेना-
“तुम कैसे हो?” ❤️

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Don’t give silent treatment. Silence creates distance. It punishes instead of healing. Speak openly, even when hurt. Silence builds walls. Honest talk builds bridges. Choose bridges, not walls.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Go home early. Your presence means more than money. Eat together. Laugh together. Small daily moments build unbreakable bonds. Your family wants you, not your leftovers. Give them your best.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Your marriage should be a partnership not a situation where your wife is constantly expected to adjust for everyone else.

When family boundaries are unclear, the wife can slowly start feeling like an outsider in her own marriage. And when a husband stays silent while his family crosses the line, his silence can feel like a choice.

That doesn’t mean you have to abandon or disrespect your parents. ❤️
It means learning to protect your marriage while still maintaining healthy relationships with your family.

A strong husband doesn’t force his wife to handle everything alone. He listens to her hurt, communicates with his family, sets respectful boundaries, and makes sure his wife knows that they are a team.

Because your wife shouldn’t have to compete with your family for emotional safety, respect, or importance.

Marriage needs boundaries, not permission.

If you’re struggling with family interference, ask yourself:

👉 Are we solving the problem together or am I simply asking my wife to adjust again...?

#MarriageAdvice #MarriageProblems #RelationshipAdvice #InLaws #MarriageCoach #HealthyMarriage #CoupleGoals #MarriedLife #EmotionalSafety #MarriageBoundaries

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आज के दौर में, जहाँ चीज़ों को #manipulate करना बेहद आसान हो गया है, वहाँ सिर्फ किसी की #socialmedia post देखकर #conclusions पर पहुँचना सही नहीं।

अगर आपके किसी #friend की कोई #post देखकर लगे कि वह परेशानी में है, तो दूसरों की बातों में आकर या #assumptions बनाकर उसके लिए फैसले लेने की बजाय सीधे उससे पूछिए “क्या तुम्हें मेरी मदद की ज़रूरत है?”

क्योंकि हर कहानी वैसी नहीं होती जैसी आपको दिखाई या सुनाई जाती है। कई बार लोग आपकी sympathy, concern और emotions का इस्तेमाल भी अपने फायदे के लिए कर सकते हैं।

इसलिए मदद ज़रूर कीजिए, लेकिन पहले उस इंसान से बात कीजिए जिसकी मदद आप करना चाहते हैं।

Care with clarity. Help with consent.
और अपने #emotions की डोर किसी और के हाथ में मत दीजिए। ❤️

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

It seems like everyone expects #perfection from the people around them, but rarely holds themselves to that same standard.

When it comes to #dating , people set incredibly high bars for potential partners. These standards cover everything from looks and personality to how someone communicates and how available they are. Respect, kindness, and love matter deeply, but no partner will ever be truly perfect.

That said, certain behaviors really are worth paying attention to in relationships. These patterns can quietly damage even the strongest connections over time. Defensiveness is one behavior that deserves a closer look. In #relationships , it can unintentionally turn into something that feels controlling or manipulative.

“#Defensiveness rarely controls a partner by actually telling them what they can or can’t do,” It controls by making certain conversations so difficult that eventually the other person stops bringing them up.”

Everyone gets defensive sometimes, and a little bit is actually necessary for protecting yourself emotionally. But too much defensiveness can leave your partner feeling unheard and misunderstood.

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जो चीज़ें हमारी health के लिए harmful हैं, उनकी कीमत इतनी आसान नहीं होनी चाहिए कि वे हर किसी की रोज़मर्रा की आदत बन जाएँ।

चाहे वह excess sugar हो या ethanol (alcohol) इन पर taxes और prices बढ़ाना सिर्फ revenue का मुद्दा नहीं, बल्कि public health policy का हिस्सा होना चाहिए।

अगर unhealthy चीज़ें महँगी हों और healthy food affordable, तो शायद हम इलाज पर खर्च करने से पहले बीमारी को रोकने पर निवेश करना सीखें।

Healthy choices should be easier, and harmful choices should come at a higher cost.
क्योंकि prevention हमेशा treatment से बेहतर है। ❤️

#PublicHealth #PreventionIsBetterThanCure #HealthyChoices #HealthAwareness

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Fast doesn't mean deep. It usually means two nervous systems found a familiar rhythm before either person had time to actually look at the other one.

And slow doesn't mean careful. Sometimes the measured, casual, easy-to-walk-away-from pace isn't protecting you from getting hurt. It's protecting you from getting close.

The question was never whether things are moving fast or slow. It's who's setting the speed. Real comfort, or a habit you picked up a long time ago.

That's one of five things we teach people to watch for in our free guide on repeating the same relationship. It's the kind of thing that's obvious in hindsight and almost invisible while it's happening.

Where does your pace usually land, too fast or too careful...?

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Some strangers turn out to be better than friends,
and some friends turn out to be worse than enemies.

That’s the strange paradox of life. 🌿

Sometimes, kindness comes from people we barely know, while the deepest disappointments come from those we trusted the most.

Life keeps teaching us that relationships are defined not by titles, but by actions.
A stranger can become a blessing, and someone once close can become a lesson.

People change. Situations reveal them.
And life goes on… a little wiser each time. ❤️✨

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

The deepest wound is not always what they did to you. Sometimes it is watching people comfort the person who did it while leaving you to carry the damage alone.

There is something almost unbearable about being hurt and then watching everyone rush to understand the person who hurt you. They hear their excuses, believe their version, soften their judgment, and somehow you become the difficult one for refusing to pretend nothing happened. You stand there knowing the truth, wondering how people can look at the damage and still choose the person who caused it. It hurts differently when you realize they would rather protect their comfort than acknowledge your pain.

And slowly, their silence starts doing its own kind of damage. You begin questioning yourself. Maybe you should have stayed quiet. Maybe you should have forgiven sooner. Maybe speaking up made everything worse. But deep down, you know what happened. You don't become the liar simply because someone else is better at telling the story.

Some people will believe the version that requires the least courage from them. They will call it “misunderstanding,” “drama,” or “the past” because accepting the truth would force them to confront someone they love. Let them. You don't have to keep bleeding just to convince people who have already decided not to see the wound.

One day, you will stop needing their validation. Because the truth doesn't become less true just because people refused to stand beside it. And surviving what they chose to ignore will become proof that you were never as powerless as they made you feel.