There’s nothing you want to tell GenZ about 2face Idibia, can never get it.
So I really understand it when they think it’s just nostalgia…
See, leave all the solo songs everyone is posting first
That Plantashun Boiz era alone bro… 2baba is NOT EVERYONE’s favs’ mate.
I’ll use this to explain something..
So this is the average 9ja home growing up…
Boys and girls having to grow up not hugging their parents/siblings.. We just didn’t get to visibly see showing of love/compassion at home even though we could k!ll for our brothers and sisters.. But to verbally say “I love you” to them and in some cases HUG THEM genuinely na problem.
I’ll cite example from a Yoruba Boy angle…
The typical Yoruba home.. You prostrate for your parents.. And you’re mandated to call your older ones ‘Boda/Aunty’.. And of course, your younger ones get to call you that too.
So that line for hugging don first blur by virtue of what we uphold.
I’m driving somewhere.. stay with me.
Now imagine both genders growing from that in the average Nigerian home.. Then later in life, one gender is just magically expected to be ‘romantic’ in a western way
Like yo! The average omo boy literally LEARNT how to give warm hugs and enjoy it as adults bro!!!
How do we magically go from that to designing the room with rose petals and buying flowers/scented candles and all ?
Where on earth in our reality did that depict love growing up ?
The trait/gesture is COMPLETELY alien to us
You don’t get it… I’ve never touched a ‘rose petal’ in my entire life bruh.. Where I wan see am ?
Scented flower ?… Ki lo’n je be ???
We’d be trying to learn these things as adults then they’ll still go ahead and call it “bare minimum” just coz they see it online from people creating content every other time and they read it on wattpad
You see how the average 9ja Man would rather take you to go and eat and/or send you money than design one nonsense room with petals ?
It’s a matter of familiar and unfamiliar gestures.
That whole thing feels like bullsh!t to him… And we lowkey know it doesn’t mean much to you Ladies too.. But westernization + seeking validation + social media pepper-them ti fe ba aye yin je.
Let me extend it a little..
You think the average bobo is freaked about planning proposals, bridal shower, white wedding, gender reveal and all those foreign dubs ?
lol mchew!!
I’ll end on this note..
Ask yourself how EVERYTHING our fathers wanted and expected from our mothers as wives are still the same thing modern Men want from their Women(wives).
But the things our mothers wanted from our Fathers, modern Women are expecting x100 from modern Men.
One-sided modernization isonu.
Some people call it arrogance; I call it knowing your lane without needing to block someone else’s road.
Not every attraction is a good match, and not every mismatch is an insult. You can admire someone, respect their achievements, and still recognize that your lifestyles, ambitions, values, or social circles may not align.
The real wisdom is knowing what you bring to the table and having enough self-awareness to understand what kind of table you actually belong at.
Exceptions will always exist. They’re exceptions precisely because they aren’t the rule.
The goal isn’t to rank people. It’s to know yourself well enough to stop forcing mismatched equations and calling the resulting confusion love.
@RegistaCall don’t wanna get into incel manosphere talking points, but this happens when your partner is in a different platitude of stardom & success, this is all she has to get people to take note of her, it makes her feel worthy and meaningful about herself, unfortunate but true.
When I made the Rihanna tweet, that women should make efforts to keep it sexy during marriage.
Twitter Nkirukas were masturbating aggressively.
You'll think gyms & diet didn't exist during her marriage.
What man wants to come home to a human sized michellin tyre logo?