If you lack emotional intelligence we will never work out fr. I’m not teaching you how to apologize, how to take accountability, or how to treat me with respect. These are basic qualities you should already possess before entering a relationship.
A real apology is remorse followed by silence, space & changed behavior. A real apology is less speaking and more personal work on yourself. A real apology is looking within and addressing what caused you to hurt & disappoint someone you love
Narcissists claim their exes are crazy because it's easier than admitting they cheated on them repeatedly, lied to them daily, gaslit them constantly, bankrupted them financially, took away all their friends and family, and then abandoned them once they'd drained them completely.
People who lack accountability will often avoid responsibility and shift the blame to you.
Manipulation is when they always get upset with you every time you tell them what they did to upset you.
Just because you've empathy and you understand someone's traumatic past is the cause of their harmful behavior, doesn't mean you should continue to tolerate them hurting you. Unconditional love doesn't mean unconditional tolerance. Empathy without boundaries is self-destruction.