Women will selfship and be head over heels for a 45 year old fictional man from a video game who is balding and looks like he hasn’t showered in 5 weeks. Men refuse to even play a game if a fictional woman doesn’t fit their hyperspecific beauty standard.
I write sex scenes really well because I have my dick in my hand the whole time and I use it as a dowsing rod for how to make it as sick nasty as possible.
This is because reading dark tropes in fiction is the equivalent of getting on a roller coaster. Coasters simulate the dangers expected in car or plane crashes, but you're not in any actual danger. The fear is controlled and simulated, and you have a choice to participate or not