👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿

It's OK to live a life others don't understand. Top tier Libra.

NB: I want to live the heck out of this life. COYG.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Why can't a man win an argument with a woman he is in a relationship with?
His woman's boss will argue with her and win
His woman's father will argue with her and win
His woman's brother will argue with her and win
His woman's pastor will argue with her and win
Even when he is 100% right, if he argues with her, he loses. Why?

Intimacy demands that the conversation between a man and a woman be much more than the exchange of mere words
Communication between someone a woman is formally intimate with is different from the conversation between the woman and other people
TO other people, the communication is just an exchange of information, but to the person she is formally intimate with, communication is a constant mating game and respect-testing activity

I used the term "formally" intimate because if the same woman has a lover outside of her marriage with whom she is informally intimate, the communication style will be different, and if she has a sugar daddy somewhere with whom she is also informally intimate, the communication will be different too.

If she has someone she likes, like her crush, the communication style will be different with the person too
With her main man or husband, she can be argumentative and combative
It helps her measure his tone, challenge his stance, and see if he is still conceding to her, even when she is wrong, and if she can still have her way with him regardless of his convictions
It is a test of boundaries, his tone, his patience, his forbearance, his body language, his tolerance, his body language, whether he is condescensing or abusive (If he suspects her of cheating) or dismissive of her (If he just doesn't care anymore)

It is not just about an exchange of information; it is about communication at every level to get a feel of the man and weigh him accurately to know where she stands with him and how far she can test his patience.

When a woman does not cheat and she and her husband have bonded as an entity, the communication between them will be simple, and they will both find it easy to pick a position of agreement on issues and abide by it

When a woman is cheating(Not necessarily having sex with the man, but has come to believe in the man and trust his opinion as another voice in her head).
She will weigh the information provided by her lover on a subject against the information provided by her husband.
This is where the argument usually stems from.
She will not be able to divulge her source, but she will be saying something based on information she got from somewhere, which she believes her husband does not know or is dismissing.

Wife: I want to go to Canada for my Master's. (Her lover has been working on this for both of them, and she has gotten the green light, but the husband has no idea.)
Husband: What does that mean? We have a family here. You have a job, and so do I. Why can't you just do your masters in the University next door? Where are we to raise the funds? What has gotten into you?
Wife: I have already applied, and I am likely to get the visa. I have spoken to my dad and my mum, and my bank and my cooperative about the funding, and I will be able to secure enough. When I get there, I will arrange for you and the children to join me.
Husband realises she has thought everything through without him.

He should suspect that she has someone else she has been communicating with on the matter for her to have everything so well laid out without his input.
He dismisses it.

In a typical relationship, a major event like the relocation of the family is often discussed between a husband and wife in detail, with both of them involved in the step-by-step decision and action until it is concluded.
A woman who has lost confidence in her husband merely informs him or her of her plan and if it results in an argument, she would never concede to him or change her stance because there is another entity in her life with whom she planned the whole process, and it is important to her not to let that entity down.

This entity could be her father, pastor, lover, best friend, brother, or mother. (A lover is the strongest voice of all, but any of the others will do especially if the woman has never really trusted in the leadership ability of the man or bonded with him on an emotional level in the course of the marriage)
A man often knows when another voice is in his wife's head because no matter what he says, his own voice will never make any sense to her, no matter how sensible whatever he was saying is.
This has always been the communication model, even though most men dismiss it.

As a single entity, ladies make their decisions, and the decisions are often very smart, self-protective, and conservative because most ladies would work and save their money so that they could continue to pay their bills comfortably.
When a lady meets a man, the conservative plan expands because he is the key to the life she cannot give herself, but that she has always dreamt of.

For this reason, she must bond with him on an emotional level so that she will always be in his considerations as he makes his plans regarding the two of them and the life they plan to build together.
In most cases, he provides the means to that life, and he cannot include her and her desires in it without communication.

This ensures that the two of them are on the same page, and they will rarely have a reason to argue unless the man ends up doing the opposite of what they agreed on or treats her input with levity.

As the marriage or relationship progresses and she begins to weigh her man's decision-making process against her desires, she might come to the conclusion that he is not capable of protecting her interests either financially, emotionally, materially, or psychologically.
Once this is established, she will look for another person with whom she can share her ideas and make her decisions.

This new person, often chosen formally in terms of a mentor, a pastor, a relative, parents, a senior colleague at work, etc., or informally like a lover or sugar daddy, becomes the second voice in her head.

From the moment she starts talking to this person, the husband or her man will notice that she would present point of view in a discussion that is not local to her.
Often, she would present these as "I have decided," or "Just for your information," or "I have made up my mind", or "this is what we will do."
At this point, the husband realises he has been cut out of the decision-making process and must either go with her decision or be left behind to sulk or find his way.

This is the classic indication that someone else has taken the place of her husband in the decision-making process, and he is no longer the dominant influence in the decision-making process of his wife.

If this person is a lover that the wife has taken, the husband becomes the third wheel in the relationship, as his destiny will be decided by his wife and her lover, as he coasts along for the ride.
If this person is a mentor, parent, or relative, the husband might find the process to be painful, but it might work out in his favour as they look out for the best for the couple in most cases.

Arguments between couples and the disposition of the female partner tell more than just the story of having a debate to see who will win.
An observing man could easily tell if it was a hand of Esau and a voice of Jacob situation
A less observant man will say, "My wife is stubborn", "My wife does not listen to me", "My wife makes her decisions all by herself, "My wife is headstrong", "My wife is not a team player," etc. No woman gets married to be the sole administrator of her life, the life of her man, and the marriage in general.

Once she has lost respect for him, she turns to someone else for counsel, and whatever the man might say from that point on becomes mere noise. Hence, the arguments continue endlessly without him winning any.

-GSW-

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

This fool wants to do jail cos of woman. Men no dey ever learn.

[The G👧rl @Sonia_the_girl_]

She’s so damn right!

In our society, men are required to prove their worth before they can deserve anything, whereas women are automatically considered worthy simply for being women.

No matter how terrible a woman or her actions are, society often turns a blind eye. This is

[PALLIATIVE UMU ASA ™ @13_xcvi]

Take your time to read this and deduce your judgement.

I was speaking with one of my friends, and I asked him a very important question, “who do you think loves you more between your father and your mother?” Without hesitation, he said his mom.

I asked why?? He’s kept on giving me reasons and one that stood out for me is when he said he grew up watching his dad beat his mom.

I then gave him an assignment. I told him to travel to the village to go visit his dad without his mom knowing cos the dad and mom don’t live together. I told him to go with a drink and spend at least a week with his dad, just tell him you came to spend time with him. And I told him he’s gonna hear things from his father even without asking.

He travelled later on and did as I instructed. His dad was so surprised home came to visit him, and on the second day, the man started spilling!

His father asked him a very important question, “ I always knew you teammates me for always shouting your mum when you were growing up, but have you ever bothered to ask why?”

His dad then went on to tell him the main reason and actually took responsibility for his actions. He told him that his mum was a serial cheat, she had different sexual partners and actually gave him some infections while they were living together. He told my guy the reason he couldn’t let her go was because he loved her so much and was way too weak to even think of leaving her, so he just started enduring but the resentment he had for his wife never left him even though he loved her, as a result, he started beating her at the slightest provocation. He told my friend he couldn’t forgive her for those things and the best way to express himself was to always beat her. But along the line, after so many years, he just eventually accepted his fate and let her go.

He asked my friend to forgive him, that he never intended for him to see him in such a light but his weakness blinded him. He went further to advise my friend to ensure he never ends up with a woman like his mother.

My friend spent a week with his dad before returning to Lagos and he had a time of his life.

Now the problem is, he’s not spoken to his mom ever since then, in his own words “bro, I no fit see my mama the same way again”. As a matter of fact, I’ve been the one begging him to try to make peace with everything he’s known and try to call his mom but he just can’t.

Now to the crux of the matter, everybody’s mum is the eat thing that’s happened after slice bread. In fact, they can do no wrong, that’s how it always seems.

Women aren’t good people by every metric. Men are by far better people than them but on the problem men have is always trying to protect the same women who wouldn’t spare a thought before doing men dirty.

This is not a post to make you see women as devils, but rather to open our eyes to what and who women truly are. We all have babes or random girls in our lives and see the way they move, that should tell us everything we ought to know.

This is 2026, if you still think women are angels who can do no wrong. I’ve got nothing to say to you other than, if you refuse to learn from the experience of others with women, others will learn from your own experience when the same women start showing you who they are.

Now, If you were this my guy, will you ever forgive your mum?? Can you ever see her the same way again??

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

This is so apt.

[Nwa Eze @Tallesty_]

The problem is that men just aren't paying attention. As a man, the major friction you will experience from your parents will come from your mom, and it’s mostly because you refused to do her bidding. Multiply it by 10 and that's what your father faced when your mom was younger.

​I know a lady who, for the past couple of year, has been trying to treat her father nicely to make up for all the nasty ways they treated him because of their mother. How did she find out the truth?

​She was complaining to me one day about him, how he doesn't care about their mom anymore and all that.

I told her to "forget about who he is now and imagine who he was when he met and married your mom. Your mom is stubborn, sharp tongued, quick tempered, and controlling, and she's currently in her sixties. Imagine what your father dealt with when she was 25 to 40. He probably tried, gave up, and his current withdrawal is the effect of what you people are seeing today."

​She actually went and had a real conversation with him. Now? Her mom is showing her premium pepper just for being friends with her own dad.

[YOM🗣️ @ThaBoyYom]

A Mother automatically earns her ‘sweet mother/best mom’ title from the very day she conceives

A Father on the other hand, no matter what he does, almost never gets recognized until he dies

‘Fathers’ are the most disregarded set of humans on earth

We shouldn’t let it continue.

[Nwa Eze @Tallesty_]

The problem is that men just aren't paying attention. As a man, the major friction you will experience from your parents will come from your mom, and it’s mostly because you refused to do her bidding. Multiply it by 10 and that's what your father faced when your mom was younger.

​I know a lady who, for the past couple of year, has been trying to treat her father nicely to make up for all the nasty ways they treated him because of their mother. How did she find out the truth?

​She was complaining to me one day about him, how he doesn't care about their mom anymore and all that.

I told her to "forget about who he is now and imagine who he was when he met and married your mom. Your mom is stubborn, sharp tongued, quick tempered, and controlling, and she's currently in her sixties. Imagine what your father dealt with when she was 25 to 40. He probably tried, gave up, and his current withdrawal is the effect of what you people are seeing today."

​She actually went and had a real conversation with him. Now? Her mom is showing her premium pepper just for being friends with her own dad.

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Man and woman no dey do bestie. If you get ears hear o.

[Nanyo 💋🖤 @Nanyo_sae]

So I've closed from work and he came to get me (his usual way of relieving me of stress from work) I wanted to tell him but he said I should lick my ice cream he got me before coming, and we are going to buy food to eat too. My senses are fixed now, I want the friendship and I'm not going to ruin it because of "sin".

If I date this man, my break up recovery will land me in ICU.

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Igbo women. Smh

[Ada Ezeagu ❤️ @QueenUjunwa1]

You burned someone else's child with melted rubber and did him all kind of evil.

And you have the guts to beg to take your own child together with you to prison, saying he is not feeling fine.

You see how your own child dey sweet you?
God will punish you well well for me.

[•Mel•🏂 @DrMel_]

The lack of talking is compensated by being extremely observant.. You’d be a clown to move funny thinking they haven’t clocked you

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Wow! So Apt.

A good read for married people.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

https://t.co/TShp6xyPEn

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Dope Caesar and risky transitions! E dey always bang like mad.

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

😂😂😂😂

[Instablog9ja @instablog9ja]

“What happened to me can happen to anybody. I didn’t plan to be a single mother of eight for seven men” — Lady cries out

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Jonasi, na Ogun go kee you oh

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Mama agbaya

[Instablog9ja @instablog9ja]

None of the Men I’ve Ever Dated Has Walked Out on Me; I Leave When I’m Done— Actress Nkechi Blessing Roars

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Nobody get teenage pregnancy reach them oh.

[chief sọm @chisomholic]

This dirty Cape Verdean mf just said they hate Africans and that they themselves are Europeans and Caucasians. 🤣

I blame African men for lusting after you ghetto rats during every football tournament because they lack self esteem. Mid country. 🇨🇻

[Brandon @Primewave96]

Epic “World’s Coolest Dad” moment. Had me smiling like a proud member of the internet family. 😂🔥😎

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Taa! Na AI be this.

[DAMI FOREIGN🥶 @TheDamiForeign]

In everything you do, avoid women with this kind of body shape!⚠️

[👑BENNY BLANCO!!👑💍📿 @Bigback84]

Aswer

[Babalola Esq.⚖️ @Owiggy_]

All the benefit boys don divorce their wives finish. Olori Sammy Money don change her handle to Kemi oni groceries 🤣

[Akeem Moshood Abiola @Mesiloye]

When yahoo money don finished ✅️.

Abiola.