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[Nathaniel Bassey @nathanielblow]

“Be strong and be of good courage ….” Joshua 1:6.
This word has been in my heart for a few days now. And thought to share with you.
As you step into this new week, BE STRONG AND BE OF GOOD COURAGE. Every ounce of strength you need to face the week is inside of you. The Holy Spirit is right within you - strengthening you by His might.

You shall not fall, fail or falter in Jesus’ name. Amen.
BE STRONG AND BE OF GOOD COURAGE !

[👳🏾‍♂️Mufti Of Ilorin Online 👳🏾‍♂️ @Adamthallith]

Anytime the cohabitation conversation comes up, I just laugh 😂

If you ask 99% of people who preach cohabitation why they support it, they’ll tell you it’s so they can “get to know” the person they want to marry. That reason? fair enough.

But think about it — if both people already know that the purpose of living together before marriage is to be “fully seen,” what stops them from acting a certain way just to pass that phase? People can pretend for as long as the cohabitation lasts, and I think this is also what all/most of us will agree on.

In my own opinion, cohabitation can never truly reveal someone who is intentional about hiding who they really are.

Even couples who have been married for decades still discover new things about each other. So why do we assume that a few months or even years of cohabitation will completely expose a person?

That belief is a bit unrealistic.

And honestly, I find it even more ironic when some women strongly advocate for cohabitation, because many times they end up at the receiving end of its downsides.

If you want to test it, as a lady, tell a man you’re talking to that you used to cohabit with an ex, and watch how his interest changes.

An average man may accept that you’ve had past relationships and accumulated body counts, in fact most men do not believe a non virgin can have one body count. But tell him that you cohabitated with all your ex, and watch how he will start to view things differently.

That’s just the reality of how a lot of men think.

Now look at the irony: many of the same men who preach cohabitation, go to their pages, they are also the ones who shame women for having multiple body counts, write horrible things about non virgins, and want to marry virgins.

Also, most of them if they can, they would never allow their own sisters or daughters to live with a man outside marriage.

The contradiction is obvious.

To be clear, people who don’t cohabit still engage in premarital sex and other premarital affairs — so that’s not even the main point here.

The real point is this:

Cohabitation does not guarantee that you will truly know someone.

If someone is determined to hide who they are, they will hide it — whether you live with them or not.

So the idea that cohabitation is some foolproof method for “knowing someone” is simply not as reliable as people make it seem.

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Give each other room to be human.

Some days will be off. Someone will be tired, quiet, or not at their best. That does not always mean something is wrong.

Do not rush to judge. Do not assume the worst.

Be patient. Ask simple questions. Try to understand before you react.

When people feel they can have a bad day without being attacked, they feel safe. And when there is safety, love grows without force.

🤷‍♂️

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

That’s why women need to understand this clearly: full submission is not something to give in a casual relationship.

Submission comes with safety, structure, and clear commitment. That is what marriage is meant to provide. Outside of that, there is no real covering, no solid ground to stand on.

If you give everything while still in a boyfriend and girlfriend stage, you remove the need for him to step up. He is already getting the benefits without the responsibility.

Keep your standards. Let commitment come first, then everything else can follow in the right order.

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[Àgbà John Doe (back up) @jon_d_doee]

As a man,

Before you decide to marry a wife, please try to loosen the grip your mother holds on you.

Let your mother know where your priority would lie, and stand by it.

Your mother is your father's wife.

Respect & honor her, but protect your wife from her and vice versa.

Your matrimonial home is your wife's territory.

If you don't loosen the grip, your mother will encroach on it.

AJD.

[Martins | Film Director @Dir_Martinsz]

For a relationship to truly work in real life, you have to accept that you and your partner are two different individuals..shaped by different backgrounds, experiences, and ways of seeing the world…coming together to build one future. That alone requires patience, grace, and deep understanding.

You won’t always think alike, feel the same, or see things from the same perspective—and that’s normal. Differences don’t mean something is wrong; if handled well, they become an opportunity for growth.

In reality, you’ll notice a pattern: you meet someone you’re attracted to, but they lack sense. You find someone who has sense, but they can’t communicate. You meet a good communicator, but they struggle with trust. You find someone who trusts you, but they’re nonchalant. Then the one who isn’t nonchalant may not even have a clear future. It starts to feel like something is always missing.

That’s where understanding the 80/20 rule comes in. If your partner is 80% right for you, chasing the missing 20% in someone else will only lead you in circles. Even if it’s 70/30 or 60/40, the principle still stands…there’s no perfect person anywhere. What matters is that the good clearly outweighs the bad.

At the end of the day, it’s not always about who is right or wrong, but how you handle the moments when things don’t align. Do you listen or just react? Do you seek to understand, or are you only trying to be heard? Do you choose communication over ego?

Healthy love isn’t about perfection or agreeing on everything…it’s about respecting each other enough to work through your differences, protect what you have, and keep choosing each other even when it’s not easy. That’s where real love shows up.

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Why does the word “provision” trigger so many young men today?

It’s like the moment they hear it, they feel pressure, fear, or even resistance.

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[Nathaniel Bassey @nathanielblow]

Spiritual warfare 101 - No matter how overwhelmed you “feel” inside, never show the devil. You see, the devil is NOT Omniscient, so he does not know all things. The things he knows about us are things said and spoken of us. Or the things we let out from our mouths ourselves or by our reactions and actions. So while you may be overwhelmed in your soul, the way he gets to know is from your reaction. And because he is a wicked and oppressive entity, when he knows where it hurts, he robs it in the more.

But responding in praise confounds him. This is exactly the rationale behind the idea that praise confuses the enemy. Because he can’t understand why his onslaught is not causing you to give up and give in.

So beloved saints of God, regardless how you feel right now, find a way to release your praise !

“14 But I will hope continually, and will yet praise thee more and more.”
Psalm 71:14.

You are BLESSED 🙂

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

A lot of men are starting to feel like their options for a good wife are getting smaller by the day.

But if we’re being honest, it’s not that women have finished. It’s that things have changed.

Women are no longer settling like before. Many of them have seen what bad marriages look like. They’ve seen their mothers suffer. They’ve been hurt themselves. So now, they are more careful. They want peace, respect, and a man who knows where he’s going in life.

At the same time, men have changed too. You’re not just looking for beauty anymore. You want a woman who is calm, loyal, and has sense. That alone will cut down your options.

Then add social media into the mix. Too many choices. Too much comparison. Everyone thinks there is something better out there. It makes people restless and hard to satisfy.

On top of that, many people are carrying wounds. Broken trust. Bad experiences. Fear. So instead of building, they are guarding themselves.

So yes, it may feel like the pool is shrinking.

But the truth is, good women are still there. Quiet. Focused. Not everywhere.

The real question is not “where are the good women?”

The real question is, are you the kind of man a good woman is looking for?

Because when you become that man, your options don’t reduce. They become clear.

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[Ghost Writer ✍️ @Prezain_LJ]

We don’t talk enough about how hard it is to start all over, whether in relationships or in life itself. You get into a talking stage, and two weeks in, you realize you’re incompatible. Then you’re starting over again, and again, and the cycle never seems to end. 💔

One of the hardest parts is meeting a new person and investing yourself in the so-called talking stage. You put in the effort to know them: sending “Hey Angel, good morning” texts, checking in to see if they had a good day, remembering small details they mentioned, making plans to meet, waiting for replies, wishing them goodnight, and even thinking about how to make them smile. You try to be thoughtful, supportive, and present. You invest your time, your energy, and your emotions into someone who might never value it the way you hope. The worst part is that you can never be sure if it will work out. When it falls apart, all that energy feels wasted, and you have to start over from scratch.

I completely understand when people choose to stay single because they are tired of this process. It is exhausting. You meet people and start to wonder if they are really even human: selfish, vain, manipulative, insensitive, cruel. Some men pretend to want relationships just to get sex, while some women are looking for financial support or favors. Everyone seems to be looking for what they can get.

The truth is, the dating pool is broken right now. You have to navigate it carefully, guard your heart, and accept that disappointment is almost guaranteed.

Y’all, be safe.

[Ghost Writer ✍️ @Prezain_LJ]

The worst mistake you could ever make is going to live permanently with a man for months, all in the name of cohabitation.

As a woman, anything beyond weekend visits or coming over occasionally to spend a week or two, count yourself out.

[StrongManGuide @StrongManGuide]

Before dating any woman,

I asked my mom what I should look for in a woman.

I thought she would say:

Low body count
No guy friends
Don’t go to clubs

But instead she said this:

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

A woman who is always doubting you or feeling unsafe inside the relationship can’t fully open up. Part of her will always be holding back, even if she really likes you.

When she is unsure, she starts protecting herself. She won’t give you all her love, not because she doesn’t want to, but because she’s scared of getting hurt.

If you want her to have feelings for you fully, make her feel safe. Be clear with your words. Be steady with your actions. Be someone she can trust without guessing.

When her fears are gone, she won’t hold back. She will give you her whole heart.

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[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Five dream traits to find in one woman:

Sexy
Nurturing
Supportive
Loyal
Peaceful

Find a woman who brings you peace, stands by you, cares for you, and still makes your heart race.

That mix is rare.

🤷‍♂️

[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

The real challenge is a woman who has standards.

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[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Let me say this clearly. No woman should ever be easy.

A woman should have standards. She should know her value. She should make a man step up.

If a man wants her time, he should earn it. If he wants her body, he should show respect. If he wants her heart, he should prove he is serious.

When a woman is too easy, many men will not value her. Sad but true. Many men respect what they have to work for.

A woman who sets clear limits protects herself. She also filters out men who just want to play games.

So no, a woman should not be easy. She should be kind. She should be warm. But she should also have strong standards.

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[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Women look for safety and security first. That is a basic need for most women. You cannot remove that from their nature.

Before love grows strong, a woman wants to feel safe. Safe with your words. Safe with your actions. Safe with your plans for the future.

She wants to know the man beside her is steadfast. Not hot today and cold tomorrow. Not full of big promises that disappear later.

Security is not just about money. Money helps, but that is not the full picture. A woman also looks for emotional safety. She wants to know she can speak, be heard, and not be mocked or ignored.

She watches how you handle pressure. She watches if your life has direction. She watches if your words match what you do.

When a woman feels safe, she relaxes. She opens up. She supports her man and gives him peace. But when she feels unsure, her guard goes up. She questions more. She pulls back.

Many men miss this point. They try to impress a woman with talk, gifts, or charm. But what truly wins her trust is consistency. Calm actions over time.

A woman can admire many men. But the one who makes her feel safe and secure is the one she often chooses to build a life with.

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[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

If you cannot stay calm and handle a woman’s emotions, you are not ready to lead a relationship.

A woman feels things deeply. Some days she is calm. Some days she is upset. Some days she just wants to talk. That is part of who she is. If a man cannot stay calm when her feelings rise, he will only make the situation worse.

Leadership in a relationship is not about shouting, control, or trying to silence her. It is about strength and patience.

It is about listening without getting (control being) angry. It is about understanding what she is trying to say, even when she does not say it in the best way.

Many men want the title of “leader,” but they run away when emotions rise. The moment she cries, questions something, or expresses pain, they shut down or attack back. That is not leadership. That is weakness.

A real leader brings calm into chaos. When she is emotional, he stays steadfast. When she is confused, he brings clarity. When she feels unsafe or unheard, he creates space for her to speak and feel understood.

This does not mean he allows disrespect. It means he has the maturity to guide the moment instead of being controlled by it.

If a man cannot handle emotions, he will start seeing every feeling as drama. Every conversation will turn into a fight. And slowly the relationship will break down.

But when a man learns patience, self control, and emotional strength, something different happens. The woman feels safe. She relaxes. She trusts his leadership because she knows he will not panic when things get hard.

Handling emotions is not a small skill in love. It is one of the main tests of a man’s readiness to lead a relationship.

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[The Odin @TheOdin_II]

Woman, you cannot be in competition for the right man.

If you find yourself fighting other women just to keep his attention, something is already wrong.

The right man does not make you compete for his love. He chooses you openly and stands by that choice.

When a man truly wants you, he does not leave you confused. He does not keep you in a line with others. He makes his decision and shows it with his actions.

Competition is for people who are unsure. Love is not a contest.

If you have to compete for a man, step back and think.

The right man will never make you feel like you are one option among many. He will make it clear that you are the one he wants.

🤷‍♂️