At the fast pace with which the world is moving in big 2026
Your govt. want to ‘empower’ you with ‘Akara & Kuli Kuli’
But you think your problem is ‘spiritual’ and you’re praying against ‘the spirit of poverty’
Forces of which ‘darkness’ ?
When we don’t even have light
Instead of asking for security from the government, you are Fasting and prayer for the same set of people killing you. Okay now you are not ready yet. If it was one governor or senator relatives then you’d knw how effective our security system are but let continue fooling.
I’ll use this to explain something..
So this is the average 9ja home growing up…
Boys and girls having to grow up not hugging their parents/siblings.. We just didn’t get to visibly see showing of love/compassion at home even though we could k!ll for our brothers and sisters.. But to verbally say “I love you” to them and in some cases HUG THEM genuinely na problem.
I’ll cite example from a Yoruba Boy angle…
The typical Yoruba home.. You prostrate for your parents.. And you’re mandated to call your older ones ‘Boda/Aunty’.. And of course, your younger ones get to call you that too.
So that line for hugging don first blur by virtue of what we uphold.
I’m driving somewhere.. stay with me.
Now imagine both genders growing from that in the average Nigerian home.. Then later in life, one gender is just magically expected to be ‘romantic’ in a western way
Like yo! The average omo boy literally LEARNT how to give warm hugs and enjoy it as adults bro!!!
How do we magically go from that to designing the room with rose petals and buying flowers/scented candles and all ?
Where on earth in our reality did that depict love growing up ?
The trait/gesture is COMPLETELY alien to us
You don’t get it… I’ve never touched a ‘rose petal’ in my entire life bruh.. Where I wan see am ?
Scented flower ?… Ki lo’n je be ???
We’d be trying to learn these things as adults then they’ll still go ahead and call it “bare minimum” just coz they see it online from people creating content every other time and they read it on wattpad
You see how the average 9ja Man would rather take you to go and eat and/or send you money than design one nonsense room with petals ?
It’s a matter of familiar and unfamiliar gestures.
That whole thing feels like bullsh!t to him… And we lowkey know it doesn’t mean much to you Ladies too.. But westernization + seeking validation + social media pepper-them ti fe ba aye yin je.
Let me extend it a little..
You think the average bobo is freaked about planning proposals, bridal shower, white wedding, gender reveal and all those foreign dubs ?
lol mchew!!
I’ll end on this note..
Ask yourself how EVERYTHING our fathers wanted and expected from our mothers as wives are still the same thing modern Men want from their Women(wives).
But the things our mothers wanted from our Fathers, modern Women are expecting x100 from modern Men.
One-sided modernization isonu.
If you ever see a tweet from this account that starts with;
- So my Mom was..
- Yesterday, My brother/sister was..
- My Wife said..
- My daughter/son is…
Just know i’ve been hacked.
kaka ki’n fi family mi se content, i’ll drop the tweet/msg in 2nd person singular
Can’t remember the last time I had to tell someone I don’t like what they did to me
As much as i’m not so easily offended, all I have to do is reduce or remove access
I don’t know how to keep whining about something to grown adults, I just remove myself from the equation.
My wife sponsored my education to PHD but all she has is ND.
Now I feel like she’s holding me back and she’s not my level
I feel I have outgrown her and I should not settle for less.
Am I selfish to feel this way or my happiness should matter?