One of the very core skills in adulthood is realizing some shege you’ll experience is just your turn. You didn’t cause it or have a part to play, it’s just your turn and it’ll pass
Like you I have first hand experience with this from teaching during my national service, and it forced me to think about the deeper problem.
I was about 22 at the time, and some of the JHS students would make comments like, “Sir, this weekend I want to come to your house oo,” and I’d shut it down immediately. One time, I overheard a student make a comment in twi that essentially translated to, “This teacher he’s even a small boy and sees himself like that,” and that really put things into perspective for me.
It made me realize that a lot of these kids have been groomed by older people in their communities for so long that it feels normal to them. The issue isn’t about how children dress or present themselves. That doesn’t solve this. The problem runs deeper and it always circles back to the adults in their communities.
A child having a crush on an adult isn’t strange. That’s part of adolescence. But the responsibility is always on the adult. The moment you indulge it, you’ve failed that child. And beyond that, your actions don’t just affect that one moment, you condition them to see that behavior as acceptable, which only makes them more vulnerable to other predators.
That’s why this isn’t something you fix by telling kids to behave differently. It’s something adults have to take responsibility for, by setting and maintaining clear boundaries every single time.
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