MoodTuner is great on desktop but is now also mobile-ready! Also getting some AMAZING feedback from test users today! I’ve added their comments and ratings to https://t.co/iHoTWzbDJX
things i wish i knew before i started building BrainFu #2:
your brain doesn't need more willpower. it needs a shorter runway. make the first step so stupid easy your brain can't argue with it.
things i wish i knew before i started building BrainFu #1:
you don't fix an ADHD brain. you stop fighting it and build systems that move with it. that's what BrainFu is. kung fu for your brain.
@omgsidewalks Hugs, exercise, purpose, creativity, therapy, clean whole foods diet, St John’s Wort (herb), meditation, sunshine, CBT, nature, morning pages… there are lots of things that help a little, and combine a few and that can help a lot.
parenting with ADHD is guiding a younger person through a world not built for them while you're still figuring it out yourself. hard to lead with confidence when you know your own brain lets people down.
the bit that kills me is when someone says "you obviously don't care" and you're sitting there thinking i care so much it's eating me alive. the gap between what you feel and what you can show is where all the damage happens.
i spent years losing fights with my own brain at work. couldn't start. couldn't switch tasks. couldn't stop doom-scrolling when a deadline was screaming at me.
so i built brainfu. free ADHD tools for the workday. dopa menu, flow mode, task unsticker.
https://t.co/RmVxffDxXV
This is what happens when I stop using my tools. As someone said to me today— motivation comes AFTER we start the task if we have ADHD, so we need to use tools that short-circuit the distraction loops!
i haven't showered in two days. i'm behind on everything and my brain has decided that a 10-minute break is something i haven't earned yet. basic self-care becomes a luxury when the pressure won't let up. ADHD steals your permission to look after yourself.
@eternusira@ayojoestar Wow. So true. I never really thought about that before.
I think that just shows how problematic our digital-first life has become… we hate it THAT much but a lot of things would stop working without it now. We’ve traded humanity for convenience 😭
@ayojoestar Yup. It SUCKS. But yes.
I built the “flow mode” task rescue part of BrainFu for this and it definitely helps… but sometimes i do it without being fully conscious of what’s happening and can still have those experiences. 😭
@Favwontmiss@hi_its_annaleah It’s exhausting performing all the time, and I love hanging out with people who I feel safe to be unapologetically real with. Lately i have made it a bit of a game to just answer questions honestly with folks to see how uncomfortable they get 🤣
Autistic people aren't bad at communication. They’re bad at performing the version of communication where everyone says half-truths, hides the actual point, changes meaning with tone, and then gets upset when you answer the sentence they literally said.
ADHD burnout is going shallow on everything because you can't drop anything. too many tabs. too many deadlines. too many things you care about. and not enough brain to give any of them what they need. so you just keep spinning.
one notification derailed me for 20 minutes today. i don't even remember what it was. just opened my phone and fell into some hole. came back and couldn't remember what i was working on. this is what tired + ADHD looks like.
working from home with ADHD is better. you're not scanning every room for social cues. you're not masking all day. but then a meeting pops up and all that anxiety floods back in 30 seconds. the relief of WFH is real but it's not a cure.
the build-up is the part nobody talks about. when you suppress your creative energy long enough to "function," it has to go somewhere. sometimes it explodes and you make incredible things for days. sometimes it implodes and you end up in a dark place. there's not much in between.
i can't relax until the world goes to bed. when i know no one will call or need me for anything, something clicks. my creative brain comes back. my body finally lets go. they call it revenge bedtime procrastination. i call it the only time my brain feels free.
the ADHD coffee cycle: drink coffee to focus. it works less and less. so you drink more. sleep gets worse. focus gets worse. so you drink more. and the cycle just keeps compounding until you're wired and exhausted at the same time.