Brenda fancy

Communications Expert

[Stella Nyanzi @drstellanyanzi]

For me, as a single mum of twenty years, my sole greatest achievement in life has been mothering my three children. Educating my children in the best private school wherever we lived has been my life’s hardest assignment. Beyond grooming them to excel at their academic work, in competitive sports and the arts, I have always insisted on raising good humans with solid character.

Single mothers in Uganda, my home-country, are judged very harshly. We are blamed for failing to remain married to the father(s) of our children. We are suspected of every form of immorality which we freely pass onto our clueless children. We are feared for constantly being on the look out for good men to snatch from other women, seduce for ourselves and sex in our beds in homes we share with our children. We are shamed for lacking the resources to meet all our children’s essential needs in a timely manner. Blah-blah-blah…

Our children grow up surrounded by these negative sentiments. If we do not balance between shielding them from and directly confronting these baseless value judgments, our children grow up believing we are wicked women. And so, for me, I encouraged direct age-appropriate communication with my children at all times and on any topic. They have always been free to engage with me whether alone, in twos or all three together. Any one of us has an equal right to raise any topic, and the rest must provide engaged audience and honest feedback - even around sensitive topics.

For younger single mums wondering how they will educate their own children, I routinely used to share tips that made the task easier over the years. The top four tips are:

1) Instead of paying all school fees in one big chunk at the start of a year, it was always easier for me to request and negotiate with school bursars to pay scheduled instalments for each of the children. These instalments were spread over the entire academic term, semester or year. This called for swallowing my pride, stilling fear and beating the shame of begging for an alternative payment model. In all cases, the school bursars were kind and considerate.

2) Bulk buying and storage of food stuff, toiletries, and essential household necessities ensured there was enough to cover our daily needs. At home, I always had favorite neighbourhood shopkeepers whom I patronised whenever I had money. When the money was tight, these shopkeepers kept an open book of items taken on credit by either myself, my children or one of my household members. When I was paid my monthly salary, I honoured our agreement by clearing all the debts in a timely manner.

3) I operated the same principle with a favorite clinic, pharmacy, bodabodaman, hair saloon, barber and any other regular service provider. When I had money, I paid well for their services to the children. When the money was tight, they trusted me enough to work on credit because I was known to pay my debts at the end of the month when salary came.

4) Ask for help from trusted family, friends and neighbours. Delegate responsibilities to other trusted adults who can delegate to you when their turn comes. Crowd source resources such as car-shares with families in the same residential area whose children attend similar sports clubs, swimming pools or concert practice. Give and take from parents in similar situations.

If I raised and educated three children, any and all other single mothers can raise and educate their children too! It was very difficult. I often had no sure sense of success. I often went through the hustle alone and fightened. I was sometimes judged harshly before I even started. But alas, the hard task of completing my children’s mandatory education is done!

Mama Stella

[Uganda Media Centre @UgandaMediaCent]

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[Amos Wekesa @wekesa_amos]

Landed in Mombasa today afternoon from OTTAWA CANADA for a RWENZORI MARATHON ACTivation on Saturday.

Done 9 flights in the last 10 days and at my age, this is a little too much but there isn’t any other way of positioning and growing an international marathon.

It’s expensive too!

Can’t grow an international while seated in Kampala, you have to show up in many places and engage before people take you seriously.

We have teamed up with Uganda consulate here in Mombasa and the numbers for activation are crazy and it’s going to be a blast.

Made some of the best connections for Uganda while in Canada coordinating with @UHCOttawa under the leadership of Amb @kajik5566.

When you open the door for me, I know exactly what do, that’s something God has implanted in me I think.

I arrive my hotel here in Mombasa and one of the managers who came to RWENZORI MARATHON last year upgraded me to Presidential suite eh, this world.

He is like I saw how well organized the Rwenzori marathon hence respect

[Amos Wekesa @wekesa_amos]

But is it too bad that some countries are cancelling visas issued to Ugandans, eh!

Yes, there an issue but now in the US for example, it’s about Uganda not Congo.

We must handle information well, otherwise.

This discussion is still relevant update

[Alan Kasujja @kasujja]

0916.

#Ebola

#Uganda

ZERO new cases of Ebola in Uganda.

No Ugandan or person living in Uganda has Ebola.

As you were..

[Amos Wekesa @wekesa_amos]

A MUST READ

SOUTH AFRICAN VISAS / TRADE

Thank you guys for sharing my post yesterday, it went to the highest office in South Africa. Got many phone calls!

MODJADJI MAHLANGU returned last evening from South Africa and went to office at 3am today morning to start working on peoples applications.

MODJADJI MAHLANGU last issued a visa on 25th of March 2026 yet Ugandan apply for visas daily. Paying for accommodations, tickets and visa fees that is never refunded.

SHE HAD LOCKED PEOPLES PASSPORTS IN HER OFFICE.

That money is earned by South African businesses hence their economy becomes bigger. The visa money is what keeps these foreign embassies operating here if you don’t know.

BUT THATS NOT A LASTING SOLUTION.

South Africa has more than 78 businesses in Uganda taking away about 1bn dollars annually from our already struggling economy.

The last I read Uganda only earned about usd 48m( DO YOU GUYS GET THE COMMON SENSE?) from South Africa. We earn less than 5% of what they earn from us.

HOW?

Their business people wake up in the morning and decide they are heading to Uganda for business and get a visa from the airport on arrival.

They on the other hand block Ugandan business people from accessing opportunities in South Africa, claiming Ugandan won’t leave their country.

The amount of money earned by the few Ugandans in South Africa can’t be compared to the amount of money South Africa earns from Uganda.

If the one billion dollars taken out of our economy annually stayed in Uganda, those few Ugandans there would have opportunities here.

The alternative is make it easy for our business people to access opportunities in South Africa so we also earn there and bring opportunities back to Uganda.

The 1bn dollars taken or earned here by South Africans strengthens their job market, cripples our job market as Uganda reason a small number want to remain in South Africa.

They simply following the opportunities that have left Uganda for South Africa through the 1bn dollars annually? Are we together?

The internal challenge for common citizens like me and you reading is that ‘ our leaders have green and red passports’ they care less and don’t know the above economics( both opposition and government leaders have those passports).

This week or this month, Uganda borrowed usd 450m from world bank and that will be earned by South African countries and Ugandans will be paying the loans.

The South African owned banks here will keep the money, they telcos will earn bit of it, insurance will also want, South African contractors etc.

Business interests for countries and individuals are fought for, you don’t sit back and think the world wishes you well, you will be silly to think so.

The above thought should apply to all other embassies!

Enough said!

[Brenda fancy @Brendafancy]

@wekesa_amos Early March this year @MrHalmMurungi missed partners meeting all because the machine that types the visas was faulty and the one in charge of issuing Visas could only issue 8 visas in a day. It was so frustrating and he ended up missing all his important engagements in CT.

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[Katumba Badru Sultan @Katumbabadru1]

And then I encouraged Annegina Randewijk to write about Soft Ground Wrestling @SGWug , currently the fastest growing sport in Uganda. Together, we collaborated on an article for Nederlands Dagblad in the Netherlands.

[Brenda fancy @Brendafancy]

@mkainerugaba 'Even though you have been raised as a human being... strive for the things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. 1 Corinthians 15:19

[Snr. Cde. Robert Kabushenga @rkabushenga]

This Saturday at 9 AM, I will host a Space to share the current edition of the @Bad_Natives_Pod. Listen in!