choosing yourself won’t result in losing the right people. if choosing yourself (setting a boundary/engaging in self-care) results in losing them, question their motivation for being in your life. why does protecting yourself hurt them. what do they gain from your self-neglect.
Letting people do exactly what they want is so freeing. When I understood that I didn’t have to teach people how to treat me, I can place clear boundaries, I don’t have to control anything, I can remove myself from a situation if it doesn’t work for me… I found peace y’all.
Hardest pill I had to swallow was realizing if someone isn’t made for you.. God simply will not let there be peace between you two. Whether it be a friendship, relationship, Whatever you can not force something to be that’s not in his plan.
Listen, not everyone's trauma gives them thick skin. Some people's trauma made them more sensitive and insecure, they cry more easily, get overwhelmed at small tings. The narrative that trauma makes you stronger is a lie. There is, power in acknowledging it and growing from it.