Some people are looking for attention and adoration— not partnership. Partnership requires a level of maturity, delayed gratification, and self awareness.
Growing up being abused, I listened to a lot of music like my life depended on it. And it did. Music literally got me through a nightmare that I think I wouldn’t have had the strength to get through without it.
It’s like, no matter how much my abusers were trying to gaslight me into thinking they were right and I was wrong, or that the abuse was normal, I had these brilliant musicians preaching to me what was really up. And I knew my abusers were totally out of touch because if they could actually appreciate the messages that are being sung by these amazing people out there, they wouldn’t be abusive people, they’d be enlightened. But they can’t hear it like we can. They’re stuck in their own demented little bubble of their own stunted perception of reality.
Music was a source of clarity for me. Music kept me in touch with reality. I knew I wasn’t alone, and I knew my abusers were nothing but out-of-touch people who would never know the amazing things that were happening or understand how wrong and clueless they really are. 🙏 TGFM
Did music save you?
Pearl Jam, Nine Inch Nails, Alice In Chains, Tool, Soundgarden, Nirvana, Incubus, Alanis Morisette, Mazzy Star, Evanescence …🔥💛 🙏
The more you heal, the more willing you are to let people face the consequences of their actions. You no longer feel responsible. You no rescue. You allow them to be with their choices. Knowing that's the kindest thing you can do. Life teaches.
I’ve been thinking about this babe on TikTok who said she knew it was time to end things with her boyfriend because he said/did something and she thought ‘my future husband wouldn’t say that to me, wouldn’t speak to me like that, that’s not the love story I want to tell my kids’.
in the narrative of our lives, we are both the authors and the first readers
it's prudent to ponder whether the chapters we're living are those we'd be proud to recount
the stories we weave with others should resonate with the dignity we aspire to, not just in the present, but in the echoes they will leave for the future
Saw #TheLittleMermaid last night and can’t stop laughing at old vs new Sebastian.
Friend: didn’t he used to be a lobster?
Friend 2: no, he was always a crab. He just talked out of his face meat. 🤣🤣🤣
@DaveedDiggs was 🤌🏼btw 😍😍😍