Over-explaining is a trauma response from walking on eggshells or dealing with emotionally reactive people at a young age. You don’t need court-level proof of why you are or are not doing something. Keep it short. You’re safe now.
Your body will speak when you return to a dysfunctional home. You’ll become the survival version of yourself. Reactive, frustrated, and trying to manage everyone around you. Even having this awareness shows how far you’ve come. It’s ok to outgrow your past.