It is just as difficult and dangerous to try to free a people that wants to remain servile as it is to enslave a people that wants to remain free. - Niccolo Machiavelli
I once dated someone who kept telling me they needed “space to figure things out.” One day, they admitted they had met someone at a café and felt an instant spark... something they said they never truly felt with me. It hurt, but I let them go. Life moved on, slowly and quietly, until one random afternoon I struck up a conversation with a stranger while waiting in line for coffee. We laughed like we’d known each other forever. That stranger became my best friend, then my partner, and eventually my spouse. Years later, I found out... through an old mutual... that the “café person” my ex left me for… was the same person I ended up marrying. Funny how life doesn’t just move on... it circles back and rewrites the ending entirely.
This phase is actually very real.
I was in a relationship with a guy I met at work. Even before he asked me out, I already had a crush on him, so when he finally did, I didn’t hesitate to say yes. In the beginning, everything was smooth…we were both really into each other, and we spent a lot of time together, going almost everywhere side by side.
About six months into the relationship, things started to change. He began having financial issues and was constantly telling me about one problem or another. At first, I tried to be understanding, but it gradually started to get to me.
Eventually, it got to the point where I was the one feeding him and even paying for his data subscription. After about a month of that, I started feeling irritated. My feelings began to shift…I wasn’t as excited around him anymore. Anytime he tried to be romantic, I felt annoyed instead of happy. Whenever I see his calls, I feel very annoyed. His “I love you” texts started feeling like he’s wasting my phone battery.
I stopped visiting him because each visit became a financial burden, and I was getting tired. I couldn’t stand being around him anymore.
At some point, I reached my limit and decided to end the relationship.
Not a stupid question.
Nairobi River joins Mathare and Ngong rivers and flows downwards to join Athi River at Kilimambogo. Flows further down to join Galana and Sabaki rivers and eventually, flows into the Indian Ocean.