One thing I love about older friends is they don't obsess over your goals. They ask if you're taking care of yourself, if you're happy, and if you're making time for the things that bring you joy.
When love finds you again, stop acting private because your last relationship embarrassed you. Stop hiding your emotions and acting nonchalant to avoid attachment, and don't call it protecting your peace. Not every relationship is doomed by default. Buy gifts, take pictures, post soft moments, go on dates, and record memories. Enjoy being loved properly. Love loudly while it lasts. If it crashes, it crashes. At least you will have experienced love fully instead of acting single inside a relationship.♥️
Relationships are so beautiful when you and your partner are actually good friends. You show up together, share inside jokes, talk openly, have fun, and totally vibe like besties. They shouldn’t replace your actual friends but it’s so amazing when the dynamic isn't just romantic.
If we date, don’t stop being you. Keep having fun, keep seeing your friends, keep chasing your goals, and keep enjoying your life. A relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. Just make sure you save time for us too.
pov: you’ve found your person - the love is real, the trust is total, the relationship is safe + secure; now y’all are just working together, building a life, making plans, having fun + keeping folks out y’all’s fucking business. whew. mm. living the dream.
My man said something to me that really stuck.
He told me, “I’m not actually here to control you. I’m not your dad, I’m your partner. You’re free to make your own choices. Just understand that every choice has consequences. If you choose something that damages what we’ve built, that’s on you.”
He said, “I’ll always tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s what healthy communication looks like. But if you keep stepping over the line after I’ve shown you where it is, then you were never really protecting us to begin with.”
And honestly, that’s what accountability in a relationship sounds like.
i don’t need perfect. i just want a love that doesn’t disappear when things get difficult. someone who stays, reassures me, works through things with me. i deserve a love that feels safe, real, true... something that lasts
I don't care what the society thinks bout marriage... It's an institution created by GOD and all that God has created is GOOD!!.
" I will marry ONCE and I will marry RIGHT! " ❤️