Emily McDonald credits one habit with changing her life: treating herself like her dream partner.
Before she could find a healthy relationship, she says, she had to build one with herself.
So she started acting like the partner she wanted.
Small, almost silly things:
Call yourself babe
Talk to yourself kindly
Take yourself on dates
"I would walk around calling myself babe."
It sounds goofy, but there's brain logic to it.
Your nervous system learns what love feels like from how you're treated.
Treat yourself well, and that becomes the baseline you accept from others.
Settle for less from yourself, and you settle for less everywhere.
The way you talk to yourself is the template everyone else gets handed.
— Emily McDonald on Trevor Noah's (.@Trevornoah) podcast
If you want to know which men have the most success with women, you might be better off ignoring women and asking men instead.
Researchers recorded videos of 157 different men.
Next, a different group of men watched these videos and responded to a question about each of the men in the videos: “How likely is it that this man would win a physical fight with another man?” They used a scale ranging from “extremely likely” to “extremely unlikely.”
A group of women also viewed the videos and responded to a question about each of the men: “How sexually attractive is this man?” They used a scale ranging from “extremely unattractive” to “extremely attractive.”
Eighteen months later, the men in the videos completed a questionnaire asking about their sexual history over the 18 months.
The shocking result: how tough a guy looked to men predicted his mating success better than how attractive he looked to women.
The researchers concluded, “Men with higher physical dominance, but not sexual attractiveness, reported higher quantitative mating success.”
Reference: Kordsmeyer, T. L., Hunt, J., Puts, D. A., Ostner, J., & Penke, L. (2018). The relative importance of intra-and intersexual selection on human male sexually dimorphic traits. Evolution and Human Behavior, 39, 424-436.
yo the "red pill" framing actually holds guys back from real results with women. that ideology creates bitterness instead of skill. wrote a whole breakdown on why abundance mindset beats ideology every time—check my profile. what specifically changed for you?
Asmongold is right.
Elon Musk isn’t the reason I lock my door at night. Elon Musk isn’t the reason I give away half my paycheck for other people to buy food for free.
67% of violent crimes are committed by 1% of the population.
It’s easy to hate the rich. Do you have the courage to hate the poor?