A white co-worker at my old job told me that she didn't believe racism was as big of a deal as ppl made it out to be until she started dating a black man.
They saw a woman getting beat by a man on the street and called the cops. Her boyfriend told her they should leave because when the cops arrive they will think HE is the suspect. She thought he was being paranoid about racism and waived off his concern.
The police pulled up quickly and drew their weapons on him immediately. She had to jump in front of him and beg the police not to shoot and told them the man beating the woman is the WHITE guy a hundred feet away from them.
She broke down crying when she told me this and said she never felt so ignorant in her life and didn't know how she went 40+ years as a parent whose kids had several black friends who she would always invite over but recognized she still never understood the racial reality they faced until that moment.
She said it caused a crisis inside of her and she had to ask herself some very hard questions for a while but came out on the other side more educated and understanding.
My wife died giving birth to our daughter, and I hated that baby from her very first cry.
Six weeks later, I walked into her room determined to let her cry herself out, until I saw something tied around her wrist...
A psychologist watched thousands of couples argue for 40 years. The ones who stayed together and the ones who divorced fought just as much. How often you fight barely predicts anything. The clearest warning sign is quieter: one partner rolling their eyes at the other.
His name is John Gottman. He wired couples up to heart monitors, filmed them fighting, then waited years to see who broke up.
The couples who lasted shared one habit. For every cold moment in a fight, a snap, a jab, a nasty look, they had about five warm ones. A joke, a hand on the knee, a quiet "okay, fair." When they were getting along, the warm stuff outweighed the cold by far more. The couples heading for a split were running close to even, more digs than make-ups. The warmth around the fight is what held them together.
The worst sign of all is contempt. That word covers eye-rolling, sarcasm, mocking how your partner talks, treating them like they are stupid or beneath you. Gottman could watch a couple fight for fifteen minutes and guess who would divorce with about 90% accuracy, mostly by counting moments like that. Plain old anger barely registered. Some of the couples who yelled the loudest turned out to be the happiest, as long as they were kind to each other the rest of the time.
There is also a physical reason the calm conversation he wants is nearly impossible in the heat of a fight. When your heart races past about 100 beats a minute, your body drops into survival mode, and the part of your brain that listens and feels for someone else goes quiet. Gottman called it flooding. Your body needs a full twenty minutes to settle, and only if you stop replaying the fight in your head. Loving someone does not switch off the adrenaline.
Most of what couples fight about never gets fixed anyway. Around 69% of it comes from the basic ways two people differ, in personality and in what they want out of life, and that does not change. Happy couples have the same three or four arguments for thirty years. They just stop trying to win and learn to argue without cutting each other down.
So the line in the tweet has it backwards. A couple that never fights is often the one quietly falling apart. Usually it means one person stopped speaking up, and the warmth drained away while the room stayed calm.
A baby at 32 weeks in the womb was caught smiling the moment she heard her dad’s voice during a routine ultrasound.
The scan showed the unborn girl breaking into a clear smile as soon as her father started speaking.
By this stage of pregnancy, babies can hear sounds from outside the womb and often recognize their parents’ voices.
An unforgettable moment. Life is truly precious.
You know why Patriots didn’t get to play QBs like Joe Burrow, Lamar Jackson, Patrick Mahomes, and Josh Allen? It’s because they and their teams weren’t good enough to get far enough to play New England
Y’all… so tell me why I went through my man’s phone because he’d been acting a little secretive and my mind immediately went to he’s cheating. I’m scrolling through messages, mama, sister, auntie, cousin… then I see a thread saved as “God’s Doing.” Now I’m mad because God don’t text, so I already had my chest tight thinking this had to be another woman. I open the messages and I see Apple Pay after Apple Pay. My heart is pounding. Then I read a message that stopped me cold. It said, “I know how much you love your son, and as men we have to stick together. Take this and celebrate with your son like you always do. I’d rather look like the stepdad that doesn’t do much than for you to look like the dad that doesn’t do nothing.” Y’all… I dropped to my knees and cried. My baby’s father had been laid off, and I knew it was hurting him financially and mentally, but for three months he never stopped showing up for his child. And the whole time, it was because my man was quietly sending him money so my son never felt the difference.
John Cena was trying so hard NOT to laugh here.
Keegan-Michael Key made it impossible for him to keep a straight face.
This clip never stops being funny man. No matter how many times I see it, it still gets me every single time 😭