a lot of the vitriol around people wanting things in relationships comes from financial insecurity. women resent men for not covering things they can’t afford themselves, and men resent women for wanting what they can’t afford to provide. it’s like a never ending cycle of poverty.
well to answer your question, nothing is rewarding if it’s not something you want for yourself. not everybody wants the same things & that’s okay. the yikes was because i think your original question was a bit transactional, as if providing only makes sense when there’s something tangible received in return. for those who choose to provide that IS the reward.
i think both can be true. humans naturally have the capacity to nurture and provide while society can influence how they act on those instincts. regardless there are plenty of social constructs when it comes to gender roles I’m sure you willingly abide by, so I hope that wasn’t your counterpoint.
drove 45 mins to my lash appt & she forgot to put me on the schedule. im so irritated i just sat in my car and cried. this is the worst thing to ever happen.