You cannot aggressively demand "princess treatment" and a traditional provider man while simultaneously having the mouth, attitude, and combativeness of a fiercely independent street-fighter. Traditional men want peace and cooperation. You cannot ask a man to pay 100% of the bills and lead the household, and then constantly argue with him and challenge his decisions like you are roommates splitting the rent. You have to pick a dynamic.
Men are not "intimidated" by your degree, your corporate job, your tax bracket, or your fierce independence. They genuinely do not care about your resume. What modern women call "intimidation" is actually just a man walking away because your combative energy, constant need to argue, and refusal to yield is completely exhausting. You aren't intimidating; you are just insufferable to come home to.