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hello! we are a DID system of 3! we are working towards healthy multiplicity and have experienced a lot of fusion!
we use this account for general updates and our experience living with DID!
✨meet the system below✨
Many of us got exactly the wrong thing reinforced when, as kids, we were praised as "mature" or "good kids" for shutting down.
That didn't teach us how to process or contain anything. That just "taught" us no one wants to hear about it or help us when we're struggling.
My childhood trauma wasn’t just the abuse i suffered.
It was also the love I never felt.
The lack of compassion.
The neglect and fear i dealt with.
And missing out on all the things families experience together..
it's not even like i'm depressed
i literally just don't feel anything at all, like days can go by and i haven't processed any of it i just feel like a shell of a person
when i was younger, my trauma made me full of anger and caused huge emotional outbursts
and now i'm older i just feel silent and withdrawn, my memory is so bad that it's hard to function, and i don't feel emotionally attached to my day to day life
Was thinking today: About how so many of us survivors of narcissist abuser relationships were the product of childhoods lived in homes without kindness, tenderness, or love but with anger, hatred, and all forms of abuse. There is a direct correlation.
And also, how impossible it is to explain to someone who hasn't experienced it, that there is an empty hole in your life when you were hated as a child.
We can't simply 'make up' feelings we never experienced. I have no idea what it would be like to be able to look back on loving parents, or to be taken care of. It's like trying to explain air to someone.
And so we grab onto the first person who comes along that we think 'loves' us because we have nothing, no measurement, with which to judge. We survivors speak a language that others don't understand.
I know people like making "welcome to getting older" jokes when someone complains about pain , but realize those jokes don't hit the same to people with chronic illnesses who've been degenerating since they were kids.
It’s so damn confusing to experience trauma from someone who says they love you. It makes love feel like a threat & makes isolation appear to be the best option to avoid further pain. Healing begins when you name:
1). That was abuse not love.
2). You are only meant for love.
"i would know if my alters or parts were communicating with me" <- guy who has the disorder of "has trouble connecting with and understanding of other parts of you" disorder
like yeah trying to move out and finding a job and all that normal stressful adult shit fucking sucks but i've got a better support system than i ever imagined and i can do pretty much anything as long as i have the right people around
putting my healing on hold whilst i save money at my minimum wage job and travel across the country to see my girlfriend every weekend just to realise that living without intense pressure and being surrounded by people i love is healing me