Gmic!!
Fridays on @SeismicSys is always
An anticipated day of the week
And as such comes with alot of emotions
Whichever side you on, always remember these.
-quality
-Consistency
-Originality
@heathcliff_eth@xealistt@NoxxW3@xplanettt
There is no way two adults from different homes, upbringing & experiences would come together to cohabit or be married as a man & a woman, & they'll not have a fight, quarrel or arguments.
And it starts from relationships.
If you're not ready to sow the pains, then you do not deserve to reap from the joy.
Relationship frictions are not necessarily red flags.
What is a red flag is extreme violence, threat to life, and when there is more quarrels than peace.
Do not go into any relationship, hoping that it will always be peaceful.
Otherwise, you're in a relationship where you're either pretending, not being yourself or burying the dirts under the rug to make the living room look beautiful.
Your partner must provoke you.
Your partner will test your resolve, & sometimes, do the unexpected.
This is how you train each other to learn how to tolerate yourselves.
And then, you snap out of it, and keep pushing.
I have always taught that the first 5 years of marriage is mostly the difficult phase.
Even if you cohabited during your relationship.
But what cohabitation will teach you, is experience.
Somethings you'd experience within your first 5 years in marriage, may not be new to you.
And you'd not have to be going out of your matrimonial homes to seek for help from "outsiders" at the slightest provocation.
Your wife may tear your boxers one day.
Your wife may seize your car keys or block the door so that you would not go out.
Your wife may refuse to cook your meal or serve you, even if she has cooked your meal.
Your wife may annoy you for nothing.
You as a man must learn tolerance, & learn that not all emotional outbursts would lead to physical violence.
Your husband may hit you out of anger.
Your husband may refuse to eat your food because you annoyed him.
Your husband may go out of the house, refuse to pick your calls, & come back very late, without responding to your greeting.
Your husband may cheat on you, too.
You as the wife, must find ways to manipulate him in a healthy way, use your feminine energy, and show him that you're still his queen, regardless.
Learn how to keep quiet when he's angry.
And learn how to speak when he's calm.
When you see couples celebrating 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30, 35 years of marriage, they're not telling you that it has been all rosy through the years.
They're telling you that they have persevered, tolerated each other and made sacrifices and compromises for each other.
Stop thinking that they performed magic.
They did not.
And even if those people are your parents, you do not know their real struggles.
What you know is what they decided to show you.
Go and get married, and see if you would do better than they did.
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A pattern I’ve noticed in successful people
1. Relentless persistence - willing to bang their head against a wall a million times
2. Ruthless prioritisation - able to focus on what matters and ignore what doesn’t
3. Irrational self-belief - delusional about their own capabilities
Achievement has consequences. Demands multiply. People will no longer see you as you. You become objectified. You're no longer human. That's when you begin to feel sorry for yourself. Truth is, you won't even know your true friends. And you'll have to cope with envy.
Driving the same car for over 10 years is normal.
Using the same phone until it breaks and packs up is normal.
Taking food to work everyday is absolutely normal.
Repeating the same clothes and shoes is very normal.
Saying no to things you can’t afford is very normal.
Be normal.
As a mother,
If you start early by teaching your daughter that, she should aim for a man that has good prospects, rather than a man that has money.
She'll most likely get married to a man that is not more than 5 years older than she is.
And she'll get married before 30.
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I was driving on my way home.
Then I saw some @HQNigerianArmy men, cutting grasses (under the hot sun) on the highway demarcation.
I wound down and brought out some thousands of naira to give to them as an appreciation.
They politely declined, and gave me thumbs up.
End.
I need every young person who aspires to be an influencer on X, to emulate from me.
You may wish not to be "anonymous".
But be very vocal, & be prepared to defend whatever you put out with examples.
You can't build a respected page by going about, insulting people.
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