all these nggas be doing fr is teaching you how to love yourself & to put yourself first. & it don’t be on purpose but every time they switch up, play w/you, or treat you in a way that you know you don't deserve, it forces you to tighten all the way up & choose yourself more & a lil harder. Then after some time, you will eventually stop being so impressed by anything that’s bare minimum energy, bc you learned the hard way what it costs to accept the bare minimum..
Unless a man sits you down and tells you straight up " I'm ready to be in a committed relationship, I want you to be my girlfriend." And you agree,then don't assume that you are. It doesn't matter what he does for you,how much you've given him or what you guys do together