“All because you don’t agree with someone else’s decision”
When that “decision” is murdering their own child because he/she wasn’t going to come out “perfect,” everyone absolutely has the right to judge such an evil act
After reading all these hateful comments about Jesse and Ashley I’m so disappointed!!! All because you don’t agree with someone else’s decision?? I understand Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and opinions, but that doesn’t give you the right to attack, judge or add more pain to those that are already hurting as is.
The reality is that none of us are living their lives. None of us were in the room during those conversations, sitting through the appointments, hearing the medical information, weighing the options, or carrying the emotional burden that came with making such a difficult decision. It’s easy to judge from the outside when you haven’t had to face the situation yourself. You don’t have to agree with the decision that was made. That’s your right. But there’s a difference between respectfully expressing an opinion and going out of your way to tear someone down when they’re already hurting. Compassion shouldn’t depend on whether you agree with someone. Basic human decency should still matter. What I’ve seen in some of these comments is less about concern and more about people looking for an opportunity to criticize and judge.
At the end of the day, this was a deeply personal decision made between them and their medical team after a great deal of thought, emotion, and consideration. Whether people agree with it or not, they are still human beings who deserve kindness and respect. Stop acting immature about it! All because it’s not what you would have done yourself.
The negative comments may be loud, but they don’t speak for everyone. There are many people who understand that life isn’t always black and white and that sometimes people are forced to make incredibly difficult choices. Those people are choosing empathy over judgment.
Healing is hard enough without strangers adding to the weight they’re already carrying. No matter what anyone’s opinion is, nobody deserves to be torn apart simply because others would have made a different choice.
I hope both of take some time and space to heal and move forward. There are many people who support you and want the best for your family. I’m one of them, and I’ll continue to have your back. ❤️ you always gotcha.
Something that I think makes this story even more evil is that they gave their dog a chance but put their own child down
Now, I love dogs but valuing a literal animal over your own child is insane
This week, my wife and I made the very difficult decision to terminate the pregnancy due to Trisomy 21.
The choice was not made lightly. We really appreciate all of the personal stories that you guys shared with us, especially the unconditional support we received from fans with no matter what we decided.
I know some of you may be very disappointed to hear this news. We are devastated. This has been extremely traumatic for both of us, especially Ashley.
She underwent the procedure earlier this week and is on the mend. Thankfully, everything went smoothly, but emotionally we are drained.
Trisomy 21, also known as Down Syndrome, is caused by an extra chromosome. It is caused by an error in cell division, like a glitch. The odds of a baby having it is 1 in 1000.
When I first confronted this news, I was shocked but optimistic. If they’re a little slow intellectually, then we’ll make it work. I signed on to be a parent, come what may…but I just didn’t fully understand what Down Syndrome entailed.
Once we made it public, it became clear that MOST people don’t know what Down Syndrome entails (and no, it’s not the same as Autism):
50% of babies with DS have heart defects. 75% will have hearing challenges. Over 50% will have vision problems. Impaired immune function, developmental disabilities, learning disabilities, delayed physical development, poor muscle tone, structural issues with face, decreased lifespan, etc…Sadly, the list is long, feel free to look it up…Down Syndome isn’t a “blessing”, it is objectively shitty from a health perspective.
I didn’t realize just how rough it is for the child, let alone the family…more often than not, they would be fully dependent on others for the rest of their life.
The miscarriage risk is also close to 50%, which made matters worse…they may never see the light of day and it puts Ashley further at risk.
We spoke with doctors, friends, family and genetic counselors and learned that up to 90% of women terminate their pregnancy after learning the baby has Trisomy 21.
This was WAY higher than I expected, I thought it would be lower given that I hear so many say they kept or would keep the baby. I believe that’s because most terminations happen privately, it feels shameful. A lot of judgment being cast.
You never think you’d be in this type of situation until it happens to you and then things change.
To all of my fans who have weighed in on this topic who have Autism, Down Syndrome or any other conditions…we appreciate you. You matter a lot and we’re glad you’re here. I commend you and your families for having the strength and courage to push forward.
As for us, we made a difficult decision that we believe in the long-run will be beneficial for our family. Thankfully, we had a choice.
It will take a little time to move on, but we are excited to try again in the future and hopefully have a better outcome.
Love you guys & thank you for understanding. ❤️
@JillFilipovic Yeah, it should be shrouded in shame
And yes, the people who oppose killing children because of a disability are obviously morally superior to those who don’t
@Slatzism THIS is the “most hateful message” he’s ever received? Pathetic
If there’s anyone to actually feel sorry for here, it’s his mom, who is already in mourning, because, as she put it, her son will be dead
“If killing babies bad, how come I can lie to you?” has gotta be the dumbest pro-abortion argument of all time. That’s saying a lot cause all their arguments are incredibly stupid.
@sarahlol1863603@allie__voss Not that I disagree but I’m curious, is the “awkward” part because you can sort of tell if they’re trying to show off how much money they have? Or is it some other reason?
@allie__voss A guy who has no intention of being serious can take a woman on an expensive date to show his money off, sleep with her and then never see her again
So either way, it’s not really an efficient strategy to “see if he’s serious”
There’s a weird amount of advice online telling women to push for more expensive dates “to see if he’s serious”
Ironically, it scares off any sensible guy because it’s insane behavior and you look like an escort