Calling Out Stalking

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[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

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[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

@rmurali2012 Thank you, Ram!

[Ram Murali @rmurali2012]

Eight years of gutsiness and always doing the right thing. 👏👏👏

[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

Do you remember when we joined Twitter? #MyTwitterAnniversary after 8 years of #CallingOutStalking

[Chinmayi Sripaada @Chinmayi]

In this interview to Asianet Actress- Producer -Director Radhika Sarathkumar speaks about Caravans of women actresses having hidden cameras that men on set had access to. She doesn’t reveal whose set, which film.

But yeah - they all know, they have all seen.

She says she has seen it everywhere.

Especially the Midnight knock.

[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

This film was horrible from the get go and should have never been celebrated. At least now we're becoming more aware of its problems! 😔
#CallingOutStalking

[Nandhuism @Chaintweter]

Maturity : when you realise Shiva is a Red flag in this Movie 😌😌😌

[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

Genuinely happy to see all the quote tweets dunking on this terrible take. We sincerely hope young people hold on to this awareness about what constitutes stalking behaviour and how Tamil films have normalised it

#CallingOutStalking

[Jennifer Greenberg 🕊️ @JennMGreenberg]

While I’m sharing stories, here’s the craziest one I’ve got. Well, maybe not the craziest, but it’s up there.

One evening, my dad and sisters and I were all sitting around the dinner table. He said something to the effect of:

“Did you see that story on the news today? A man came home and caught his wife and kids packing to leave him, so he shot them all dead, and then he killed himself.”

Then my dad looked me dead in the eyes and said, “You’d better never try to leave me.”

This was not the first time he’d told us this story, and I became convinced he was going to kill us all.

So, the next day, while he was at work, I snuck into his closet. I stole his 3.57 Magnum handgun out of the case, made sure it wasn’t loaded, and wrapped it in a towel. Then I put the case back on the shelf like it had been, took the gun downstairs to my bedroom, and hid it in a box of yarn and craft supplies.

I left him the bullets. I figured if he got really mad, he could throw them at us 🤣

Then I waited.

Eventually, he came home from work, went to go change … and when he came back out of his room, he glared at me. I don’t know how long but it felt like minutes. He just stared at me, and I knew that he knew. He must have taken his gun case down and realized it was empty.

After that, he pretended like nothing had happened. He never mentioned it. Never retaliated. Years later, I gave the gun to my mom and she pawned it to pay her divorce lawyer 🤣

I was probably 19 or 20 when I stole my dad’s gun. And to be honest, I’m pretty dang proud of that girl.

[Prof Jane Monckton Smith OBE @JMoncktonSmith]

Murder by an ex is a global issue for women. Learn the 8 stages. Here are some tips:
* Never go for a ‘last chance’ holiday, coffee, or glass of wine.
* Suicide threats to stop you leaving are a threat to you
* Don’t trust ‘grand gestures’ to stop you leaving - there will be a price
* Trust your instincts - never second guess your fear

https://t.co/bw27gclZGR

[Meg Vondriska @menwritewomen]

every woman in the world looks at this and immediately knows it won’t be used for tiktok

[Chinmayi Sripaada @Chinmayi]

It’s been approximately 2-3 days since Mansoor Ali Khan’s abusive remarks during a press meet.

I have been waiting to see if ANY Union has given him a red card, suspended him, some disciplinary action. Nothing.

Apparently he was only told to give an apology in front of the media.

On the contrary - I was banned pretty immediately for saying I got molested by a Padma award winning Lyricist who is a known serial offender. And 5 years later, I still have various Industry ‘veterans’ giving interviews shaming me for speaking up.

Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha.

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

Every time.

[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

Spend ten minutes to listen to this. You'll never again be dismissive of stalking. It's not romantic, it's not cute. It's terrifying & it's a punishable crime.

Also, this is from a country which at least has the concept of a restraining order (though dysfunctional). Imagine us!

[chris evans @notcapnamerica]

Holy. Fucking. Shit.

[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

Do you remember when you joined Twitter? I do! #MyTwitterAnniversary
Thank you for your support to #CallingOutStalking

[Baradwaj Rangan @baradwajrangan]

In the blog, Madhumithaa writes about "a disturbing pattern in Tamil cinema -- the extent of gory violence shown on screen, especially against women." And asks: "Has this become the new normal?"

https://t.co/ESOKnXm6Q4

[Calling Out Stalking @CallOutStalking]

#LRT To expand on that:

Think of Thambikku Endha ooru, Mannan or Maaman Magal. Very often the submissive woman would be throwing herself at the hero, only to be discarded for the sake of the "exotic bird"

So much so it makes you realize that misogyny was not a bug but a feaure!

[Tiaraoluwa 💕 @TheOluwabukunmi]

Trevor Noah and his mom put it very aptly. Traditional men blatantly refuse to partner up with traditional women because they want a woman to “tame and control”. It’s a sickness

[Iswarya @iswaryaval]

Plot summary of a whole bunch of 80s-90s Tamizh films:

[Swarna Rajagopalan @swarraj]

Why didn't she tell anyone? The #SurvivingViolence team wanted to share #domesticviolence victims' point of view. So we asked.
https://t.co/hM1wsQ3IwJ
TN study: https://t.co/SUSUi9feZV

[Swarna Rajagopalan @swarraj]

Read the full version of the Tamil Nadu report, Stuck in a Circle, here: https://t.co/SUSUi9feZV And the research brief here in English: https://t.co/ngCOV9dkUI and here in Tamil: https://t.co/eZRYVlGGhs

[Chinmayi Sripaada @Chinmayi]

Trigger warning: Murder

In a CCTV video of a teenage girl in Delhi stabbed by a man because of a quarrel that he stabbed her over a dozen times, the knife gets stuck in her head and he then smashes her head with stones. People watched and walked away.

The body was there until a police informer told the police several hours later. Those people who were bystanders didnt even bother calling the cops.

And people in Delhi burst a blood vessel if a couple hugs or displays love, or clothes, take their photos and share on social media in an attempt to shame them.

When women refuse to be with violent men they need to actually fear for their lives.

We are a country where molesters and rape accused sit in Parliament; justice is delayed and denied but yes of course speeches galore on Women’s safety.

Whatttaaaayy culture!!

[Dr Meena Kandasamy மீனா கந்தசாமி @meenakandasamy]

A man killed his teenage girlfriend after stabbing her with a knife in public more than twenty times, and as if that wasn't enough, he smashed her head with a boulder. Dozens of passerbys walked past, no one intervened, no one called the police, no one stopped him.

India's misogynist violence doesn't reside in her men alone, it is embedded, along with the caste system and rape culture, within society itself. Which is why victims of domestic abuse don't speak out. Not because they won't be heard, but because they will be silenced, they will be damned.

This is a society which legitimises violence in every interaction. A society with so much innate cruelty that doesn't even try to hide. Two days ago, at a roadside eatery, I saw a mother tell her three-year-old child, if you don't eat, I'll punch your face. We've normalised violence without realising how harmful, how painful, how self-destructive it is.

When will mothers and fathers first learn to love their children without this language and culture and practice of violence? When will men learn to hold women with only love - - and neither the trembling shadow or the threat of violence?

How do we love in this society? How do we relate in the midst of such misogyny---knowing that men hate you from the very bones, that this is the way they have been conditioned? That the women to whom you turn for support may well be patriarchy's handmaidens, who will blame you for everything you have suffered.

Every act of violence that you suffer, every act of violence that you observe, every act of violence that you inflict breaks you down forever. How do we put ourselves together as a people?

Sometimes I feel broken in a way no miracle can put together.

Some nights, in the arms of my children, or in the tenderness of my lover, I feel that there is, and will be, a healing to all the hurt of the world.