Callie Sorensen

Supporting survivors to unpack their story, heal from relationship wounds, build healthy relationships & create a new life. Founder of @redflaged

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Finding a long-term fulfilling relationship is not about fate… it's about having a deep desire to learn and grow, knowing how to self reflect and take accountability, as well as leaning into challenges and conflict to come out the other side with deeper more genuine intimacy.

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Narcissists only change the person they target… they never change themselves.

#narcissist #toxicpeople

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RED FLAG 🚩 = When someone gets reactive after you share feed back, express differing viewpoints, point out inconsistencies, share your feelings/needs, contradict their opinion.

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SAFETY is of utmost importance in a relationship.

Do you feel safe to share your feelings?
Do you feel safe to share your concerns?
Do you feel safe to request what you need?
Do you feel safe to make mistakes?
Do you feel safe to fully be yourself?

#relationships #dating

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Not every narcissist will be will boast openly, be super into themselves, or be grandiose.

Covert narcissists are clever in the most subtle of ways… using their logic, the “right words,” or twisting situations to portray themselves as the victim so you question yourself.

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Sometimes people just say the words that you want to hear.

That’s why it’s so important to pause and feel beneath their words… as well as pay attention to their patterns, behaviors, and actions.

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Be aware of people who use lines such as “I’ve been feeling you…” or “I had a powerful dream of you…”

They can use these types of lines to lure you in and make you feel special or seen… yet it’s important to tune into what their underlying hidden agenda might be.

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@RJohnston815 @blkunicornrose Thank you so much. I truly appreciate your support 🙏

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Looking for Former Cult Members who were recruited online or through social media.

Contribute to deepening our understanding of cult recruitment and prevention by taking part in a Focus Group Qualitative Study.

More information:
https://t.co/4cac2CmTvG

#cult #igotout #cults

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@drruthannharpur @NicholeLNelson Participants need to self define their group as a cult. They may keep all group and leader names anonymous.

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Looking for Former Cult Members.

One final focus group study will be held this coming week.

Contribute to deepening our understanding of cult recruitment & prevention.

More info and to register:
https://t.co/4cac2CmTvG

#cult #igotout

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@TuesdayNT @MikeRinder @GrowingupinSCN @blownforgood Thank you so much for sharing the study!

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Instead of solely looking at someone’s potential, prioritize their actions and character.

For we ALL have potential. Yet see whether someone is actively pursuing their goals, learning, growing, reflecting, aligning w/their word & making a positive impact in the lives of others.

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What fears do you have about others’ perceptions of you?

These fears can often reflect your own feelings and beliefs about yourself.

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Green flags in a relationship:

After a conflict do they:

✅ Genuinely apologize

✅ Take accountability for their part

✅ Work on understanding themself on a deeper level

✅ Work together to find solutions

✅ Change their patterns & behaviors

#relationships

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Toxic spiritual communities are narrowly built around the self-centered perspective of the leader.

Healthy spiritual communities encourage unique varying expressions for each individual in the group.

#spirituality

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It’s healthy to take pauses throughout your life to critically think and question the mentors & relationships in your life.

Do their words & actions align?
Do you feel safe with them?
Do they care about your feelings & needs?
Can you question them?
Is your life improving?

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When somebody is in emotional pain or grieving, it can be painful to hear “look on the bright side” “it could be worse” or “be grateful for what you have”

Even if the intention is to help, they can feel dismissed or invalidated. Instead see if you can meet them in their feelings

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Have you noticed how some people… as soon as you start losing interest or drifting away they can suddenly share a sad story or childhood trauma so they can reel you back in because you start feeling bad for them and want to support them.

I call that "Coercive Vulnerability" 🚩