Yryk

hola

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

I used to be at raves until 5am.

Last Saturday I was up at 5am.

My son was screaming. Overtired. Nothing worked.

He finally fell asleep. No idea why.

I closed the door to another room.

Sat on the floor.

Nine months ago: gym four times a week. Spontaneous nights. No schedule.

Now every evening is accounted for.

I sat there and thought: who is this person

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Everyone thinks intimacy disappears after a baby because the love fades.

It disappears because two people are too exhausted to build the bridge back to each other.

67% of couples report this in year one.

Millions of new parents. Same silence.

What helped me: stop trying to get to intimacy.

Start trying to get to connection.

Small things. No agenda.

The rest follows.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Sexual intimacy drops significantly after a baby.

For MOST couples.

Not one or two.

Most.

Nobody warns you.

So when it happens, you think something is wrong with you.

With her.

With the relationship.

It’s not a sign something broke.

It’s a sign you’re in the hardest window of early parenthood.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Before my son was born, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other.

After… everything changed.

Both exhausted by 9pm.

Both feeling the distance.

Neither saying it out loud.

What I learned: you can’t go from survival mode to intimacy in five seconds.

The connection has to exist first.

Small things first.

A real hug. Sitting next to her. Touching her shoulder.

No agenda.

That’s where it starts.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Research shows relationship satisfaction drops after a baby.

For MOST couples.

Not because love disappears.

Because connection needs unstructured time.

And unstructured time is the first thing that goes.

Most couples don’t notice until months in.

Bookmark this if you’re in this right now.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

I didn't expect these numbers.

67% of couples report lower relationship satisfaction after a baby.

40% describe their partner as a stranger by month six.

20% stop having real conversations entirely.

I started asking her one thing every day.

"What do you actually need from me today."

She looked relieved.

That said everything.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Week 3 after my son was born, something shifted.

We were functioning perfectly.

Feeding schedules. Sleep windows. Who’s on tonight.

A machine.

But somewhere in there we stopped being us.

My girlfriend and I both felt it.

You have to actively work against it.

Because it doesn’t announce itself.

It just quietly moves in.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Saturday morning.
Son is still asleep.
I’m sitting at the kitchen table
with a coffee that’s already cold.
Last night I did the five minute check-in.
Physical: 4
Emotional: 3
Social: 2
I stared at the numbers
and felt nothing at first.
Then the guilt hit.
Still better than no knowing.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Most new dads think they know
how they’re doing.

They don’t.

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

1 in 5 new dads experiences depression or anxiety in year one.

Most of them don’t tell anyone.

Not because they’re hiding it.

Because they can’t tell anymore.

The signals get buried under sleep deprivation and constant adrenaline.

The baseline keeps moving.

[Yryk @CapitalDtk]

@alexgan25 Can relate that feeling

[Alex Gan @alexgan25]

Tuesday evening.

Eleven months in.

My partner looked at me and asked
how I was doing.

I said fine.

She said you don’t seem fine.

I had nothing.

No answer.

Because I genuinely didn’t know anymore.

I sat there on the couch
and realised I couldn’t read myself.

That’s when I started the five minute check-in.

[Yryk @CapitalDtk]

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[Yryk @CapitalDtk]

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[Lalo @LaloWWG]

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[Yryk @CapitalDtk]

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[Yryk @CapitalDtk]

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[Yryk @CapitalDtk]

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[Elon Musk @elonmusk]

Next I’m buying Coca-Cola to put the cocaine back in

[Yryk @CapitalDtk]

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