This is supposed to be an enjoyable fetish.
If sending hurts and affects your mental health, or if you just don’t have the means to effectively provide for your domme then it’s not for you.
Spoiling a woman and putting a smile on her face should also bring you happiness.
I just want to know in what part of financial domination was there a rule that you had to be mean and degrade subs?
Because for me, I think one of the most important aspects of a D/s connection is being able to speak to each other with respect and appreciation for one another.