a healthy man will change if he's hurting you.
a toxic man will say "well I guess I’m just a piece of shit who can never do anything right."
believe him.
Women are afraid men will:
A. Drug them
B. Beat them
C. Rape them
D. Kill them
E. All of the above
Men are afraid women will:
A. Laugh at them
B. Reject them
C. Use them for a free meal
Women are out here sharing live locations, checking the backseats of cars, and holding their hands over their drinks. Men are doing 3 hour podcasts about how unfair it is that we don't smile at them. The disconnect is fatal.
BDSM is soul work. The body is the altar. Sensation is the sacrament. What happens in that liminal space is the most honest conversation you'll ever have with yourself.