The sub who messages "are you mad at me?" when you go quiet is not checking on you.
He is asking you to manage his anxiety.
He does not care if you are tired or overwhelmed or simply unavailable. He cares that the silence is uncomfortable for him. So he makes it your job to fix.
"Just let me know you're okay."
"Did I do something wrong?"
"I haven't heard from you."
Every one of those messages adds weight.
A sub who actually understood service would look at your silence and ask himself one question:
What can I handle so she does not have to?
I genuinely wanna be friends with some of my mutuals but I can’t tell sometimes if yall are here just to get a bag & go or if yall wanna make genuine connections & my anxiety can’t take it 😭 if I dm you, pls know I think you’re cool af & I wanna be friends 🫰🏽
Quick reminder that some “dommes” are as scammy as fake subs
If you’re new don’t buy any stupid courses. Most of us support each other if you need advice just ask
(PSA just because I’m new to twitter doesn’t mean I’m new to findom 😉)