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4 days ago

This is exactly what I wrote about two years ago.. Consider two 25-year-old men. The first spends his days avoiding situations where he can be judged, rejected, or found wanting. He works remotely, socialises online, consumes content, and carefully curates his environment to minimise discomfort. Five years later, he has accumulated very few experiences that tested him. His self-esteem becomes increasingly dependent on what he thinks of himself because reality has rarely challenged him. The second man regularly places himself in situations where outcomes are uncertain, He applies for jobs he may not get, He asks women out and gets rejected, He pitches business ideas that fail, He competes, He negotiates, He risks embarrassment. Five years later, the second man may not be more talented. But he is usually harder to intimidate. He has evidence that he can survive disappointment because he has survived it repeatedly. The confidence came not from success alone, but from repeated exposure to situations that could have gone badly. A man's psychology is often shaped less by his victories than by the number of times he willingly risked defeat.

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4 days ago

I DON'T WANT YOU TO BELIEVE ME The fact that men are increasingly prioritising everything above wooing and fccking women is having a devastating effect on the male psyche. Men are now, more than ever, psychologically weak. The male specie is conquest-wired. For there is a form of psychological maintenance embedded in the pursuit of women and getting laid by women. There always has been. The male creature is conquest-wired. His sense of self, his pride, his confidence, and even his identity are built through the repeated experience of overcoming resistance. A man becomes himself by confronting things that can reject him. For generations, one of the most accessible arenas for this process was courtship - wooing women, and fccking women. A man saw a woman he desired. He approached. He risked humiliation and endured uncertainty. He succeeded or failed. But regardless of the outcome, he participated in a ritual that exercised courage, tested resolve, and strengthened his tolerance for rejection. The pursuit itself was developmental. Today, men are increasingly withdrawing from that arena. Some call it self-respect. Others simply call it peace. But whatever name is given to it, a consequence remains. Because, The modern world has become painfully difficult to conquer. Careers are uncertain. And Education no longer guarantees prosperity. The traditional avenues through which men built confidence are collapsing before their eyes. And now, many have abandoned one of the few remaining arenas where ordinary men could still experience conquest in a tangible form. So what happens? A generation of men with very few victories to their name. Few risks taken. Few battles fought. Few dragons slain. And because confidence is not imagined but earned, these men become psychologically bankrupt. A man who wins nothing eventually loses faith in himself. That, more than anything else, is what is happening to modern men. They're not f#cking enough women.

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