#DisabledLoveIsBeautiful
Don‘t you ever suggest otherwise.
Disability is not a burden. Nor is it a measure of unworthiness.
In fact, disability adds to the relationship. It can be the foundation upon which trust is built and true love is strengthened.
Calling the needs of disabled people “special needs,” turns them into a burden and makes it easier to deny them.
Disabled people have human needs.
Not special needs.
Not burdens.
Human needs.
If you're at a college that started became in-person for Fall, you're students are excited, motivated, and tired AF. They are overwhelmed. They are nervous. They have concerns over time management, getting in the flow of things, getting COVID.
Be fucking nice.
Nondisabled person:”Is it ok if I park here? I have to pick up my lunch.”
Me, a wheelchair user:”You’re blocking the bus stop.”
Nondisabled person:”I promise. I’ll be back before the bus comes.” (He parks and runs off).
Bus comes and I miss it.
Nondisabled people are exhausting.
Stranger in front of church:”Do you have faith? Have you repented for your sins? That is the first step to getting out of that wheelchair.”
Disabled people aren’t sinful.
Disabled people aren’t faithless.
Disability isn’t a punishment.
Disabled people don’t need constant reminders from nondisabled people that we are able and capable.
Nondisabled people need those reminders.
The presumed inability and incapability of disabled people is the essence of ableism.
Stranger:”I’m so sorry for you.”
Me:”Why?”
Stranger:”I’m sorry you’re in a wheelchair. I’m sorry for your misery. I’ll pray it ends.”
Disability is not misery.
Wheelchair use is not misery.
Unsolicited prayers to end the perceived misery of disability are ableist and unwelcome.
Today is disability day of mourning. I’m mourning the disabled people who didn’t survive this pandemic. I’m mourning the fact that we live in a society that often treats disabled people like afterthoughts. I’m mourning living in a world willing to accommodate everyone but us.
You’d never ask if you would be happy to have physical relations with someone of a different race or nationality so why is it appropriate to ask that of disabled people?
@JustinTomlinson, you are the Minister for Disabled People - this is not acceptable.
This is downright degrading for disabled people.
Rather than supporting an inclusive society @cabinetofficeuk is actively accentuating the them Vs us narrative of disabled Vs non-disabled.
Questions like these just make it harder for disabled people to be counted at equals.
Will there ever be a time when disabled people do not have to remind others that that we are not disposable, dispensable and
expendable?
Ableism is exhausting.
As soon as people talk about “special needs,” they devalue disabled people.
With devaluation, disabled people become a “burden.”
No human being is a burden.
Disabled people don’t have “special needs.”
Those are code words for burden.
Disabled people face special barriers:
Exclusion, inaccessibility, lack of accommodation, inequity, and ableism.