My wife and I did the whole Ramsey thing when we were in debt and wanted to get out.
The first thing we did was completely move to cash for everything possible.
My wife had a habit of going to Target because she needed paper towels and coming home with two new outfits and some tchotchkes to put on the mantel.
She then started taking just enough cash with her to pay for whatever it was that she wanted and took notes about the things she wanted to buy so we could budget for it later.
We went debt-free, minus our mortgage, during a time when I was unemployed.
During this time we would eat out maybe once every couple of weeks. We were doing heavy meal prepping, tons of coupon cutting, and watched our budget like a hawk.
We still ate well and enjoyed life. My daughters never went hungry or without.
Eventually it became such a habit that we no longer missed the hundreds of money-sucking crap that we used to spend on.
But it took effort. And I'm just afraid too many people are looking for an easy button here to make everything better.
That easy button unfortunately will make everything worse.
This might sound light.
But….
It helped.
Naps. Take a fucking Nap.
Eat something that makes you happy and take a nap.
One foot in front of the other is the science fr fr.
One the worst days of my life… I got a pan pizza from Target . cried and took a nap.
Wanna give a special Heavenly Birthday to the most beautiful, courageous, loving, selfless, endearing and missed mama a black man could ever have. My Terri, my teacher, my counselor. Thank you for your undying love and essence. My North Star. Happy Birthday Mama!!
A lot of people don’t seem to realize the lion was real, and yes, she later did get attacked by another one during a promotional shoot. There’s even footage.