i actually think “surface-level” friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride-or-die. some friends are for the gym. some friends are for church. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. the deep conversations are for the 2–3 people closest to you.
DO NOT MAKE LIFE DECISIONS BASED ON YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND. Do not stay close to home for them, do not skip opportunities for them, do not pick a university that's close for them. They not the world! Grow yourself, expand your horizons.