tolerating always turns into resentment. at first, you call it patience, then love. but what it really is, is self abandonment. every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. eventually, the bill comes due.
romanticize your life, take pretty pictures, feel like the main character, light up a candle, read books, go for a walk, dance to your favorite music, buy yourself presents, do whatever you want, be happy - this is your life, don't let anyone take it from you
I didn’t want to quote Shezi’s tweet because it’s not quite the same but I’d say that parental abandonment has caused the same feelings in me.
Like if I can get over my own father not carrying about me, hai sana, the door is always open for everyone to leave as they wish. 🤷🏾♀️
So um, you can actually miss someone and not rekindle the partnership you once had. Experienced it in real time, and wow. Lmao. Missing them is not a sign to go back it is proof the relationship once existed. It just be just that until you make it something else. Ok, ok!!
i know i need to watch my tongue but i’m so tired and frustrated by inconsideration that i’ve just decided to become a difficult woman. it’s whatever, man
Another thing I’m quietly grateful for is not having to stress over another person’s actions and how they could dictate how my day goes. All my stresses are things I can control or things that just need time 🙏🏽