No. Just stopped people pleasing and have firmer boundaries and maybe some people might interpret that as mean. Especially those who benefitted from my lack of boundaries.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
So glad I learned how to turn this off. Spiritually its a form of mental bondage. Lot's wife turned into a pillar of salt for this and that's what you are when you become a slave to nostalgia. Renew your mind daily. All you ever have is the present. Be where your feet are.
i love when people do photo dumps. like yes, please show me the mundane, like light passing through your window, a sign on the road you liked, a crying selfie, a bowl of what you cooked.